For context I am early 40s with primary kids and mum is early 70s and single. She lives approx 45 mins away and she usually comes over one evening a week to spend time with the grandkids or we will see her at the weekend.
She complains that I never call her and says some of her friends kids call their mums daily. I don't necessarily think it's comparable as many of these kids live far away so they don't see each other so often.
I'm not a big speaker on the phone and she just wants to talk about pointless things that can definitely wait to discuss when we next see each other in person. Or via a quick WhatsApp message. I do get a bit irritable with her calling me often and am not always that nice to her particularly if she calls while I'm busy i.e. most of the time. Then once the kids are on bed I don't really feel like chatting on the phone, I'm tired and want a bit of time to watch TV or read.
AIBU to wait max a week to have a conversation when we see each other?
Also I'm interested to hear how often others see their mums in person and how often they speak on the phone.