Ex keeps saying he doesn't want to see ds

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Long back story of abuse.

He has seen ds a handful of times since early September.

He is like a toddler having a tantrum when he doesn't get his way and he says the most ridiculous things without thinking. I know from experience there is no stopping him when he's in this mood.

3 times now since October he has sent me emails saying he doesnt want to see ds.

I thought we were getting somewhere and he saw ds for the first time the other day in ages.

Now he's kicked off again with me and sent me another email to say he doesn't want to see him. It's because of me - he can't cope with how I treat him which is grey rock.

What do I do? He's 100% going to come back and want contact again. I can't keep doing this. It's not fair on ds (he is just 6). Ds is unaware of what his dad is saying obviously. But he has no idea when he is seeing his dad again and neither do I.

Hes never going to change.

@Nchanged89 so sorry, I thought I'd replied to this. Thank you so much for all your advice. I'm still feeling wobbly about it all but going to try make the best of it with me and my children. I just feel mentally drained.

I did email him to tell him I was aware of the introduction however he replied asking me what I meant - I have not replied to that and I won't. I maybe shouldn't have sent the email but the anger got the better of me. Although my email wasn't aggressive and just said I was aware of it.

So all in all, in the last 2 weeks, he's stopped paying maintenance, told me he's going to social services, was too hungover and unorganised to collect ds and introduced him to his new girlfriend of a few weeks behind my back despite saying he wouldn't.

What's an absolutely disgraceful father he is.

My son deserves better and so do I.