What has life taught you?

Lifelessonstoremember · 2023-12-09T12:51:38+00:00

My life hasn't gone the way I hoped it would. What have you learned about life - how to manage suffering and how to be happy?

Kryten1958 · 09/12/2023 13:09

Don't listen to what people say. Look at what they do, and what they don't do.

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 09/12/2023 13:10

Life's shit, then you die?

Getabloominmoveon · 09/12/2023 13:13

Keep moving forward. Everything is only for a short time. Look after yourself first.

WheezeAJollyGoodFellow · 09/12/2023 13:14

Say yes more than no.
It is rare for me to regret trying new things.
Be brave, and don't wait for friends to be ready to do what you want to do... You might never do it.

And, if the relationship isn't working end it. The sunk cost falicy is a bloody stupid reason for staying with someone... Despite what your family might say.

jersydress · 09/12/2023 13:16

You are only content if surrounded but the right people.

HappiestSleeping · 09/12/2023 13:18

Happiness is not a future event.

JennyForeigner · 09/12/2023 13:19

Never start a land war in Asia.

Smiley85 · 09/12/2023 13:20

Embrace hardship , stand with your head held high. Don't give up. Find happiness and confidence from within. Most importantly don't dwell on things. Something bad happens we can make it allot worse. Move on and leave the past in the past. All that type of stuff really helps me

JamSandle · 09/12/2023 13:21

If you can find joy in the little things, you'll get even bigger joy from the big things.

Never count yourself out!

coffeelateperson · 09/12/2023 13:21

We're born to die,
Whatever happens is doesn't matter that much, keep moving on.

Heyhoherewegoagain · 09/12/2023 13:25

That’s it’s very fucking short-buy the shoes and eat the cake, tomorrow isn’t promised

WinterParakeets · 09/12/2023 13:32

Not everyone likes you and that is absolutely fine. I used to be a people pleaser, desperate to be liked. Now I don't give a damn and am much happier.

If you want something, take action towards it, whether you feel like it or not. Don't wait to be in the mood for a run or in the mood to write a page etc. Just do it.

Find deep pleasure in small, easy things; free things: watching birds feed in the garden, dogs bouncing around a park, sunlight through the trees, a good busker, a smiley cashier.

Make rituals of small, easy pleasures: a great cup of fresh coffee in the morning, cuddling the cat, reading a poem or short story before bed, lounging in the bath, listening to your favourite band as you prep tea, watching comedy shows with your feet up on the sofa.

Make bucket lists of things big and small that you want to do and do them. Don't put them off.

Love your children. Spend time with them. Encourage their interests. Teach them and learn from them. I'd rather be less well off financially and see more of DC than have material wealth and be too tired to have fun with them. (I know those aren't the only two options but in my case, they were the choices.)

Decide what your own values are and live by them. I don't give a toss that our kitchen is ancient and out of date or that we have the uncoolest car in our area. I'd rather spend what money we have on travel and concerts and theatre shows.

Twicemother · 09/12/2023 13:32

Truly you are alone in life's hardships.

Others support is not enough to carry you though.

Make yourself independent, to make those times easier. Financially, equipped your self with life skills, learn how to relax and how to be happy without others.

Do what you enjoy and what brings you happiness to get through the hardships.

Be selfish in your needs.
Your work to pay your bills and luxuries in life,
Your health and fitness,
Your mental wellbeing
These needs to come first.

2jacqi · 09/12/2023 13:34

dont trust anyone! not even your family!!! stab you in the back as quick as look at you!!

mondaytosunday · 09/12/2023 13:34

As someone who lost their husband young I've learned that you never know what will happen tomorrow, but that you can cope with it.

Museum10662 · 09/12/2023 13:36

if i had the option to time travel i would, just not sure if it would fix or change the current time line or completely rewrite it, and or if it would create a new Parelle universe or alternative time line

time travel puzzles me.

Itsenough4now · 09/12/2023 13:41

Everyone is so busy picking sides, no one is actually solving the problem at hand!

Pudmyboy · 09/12/2023 13:42

WinterParakeets · 09/12/2023 13:32

Not everyone likes you and that is absolutely fine. I used to be a people pleaser, desperate to be liked. Now I don't give a damn and am much happier.

If you want something, take action towards it, whether you feel like it or not. Don't wait to be in the mood for a run or in the mood to write a page etc. Just do it.

Find deep pleasure in small, easy things; free things: watching birds feed in the garden, dogs bouncing around a park, sunlight through the trees, a good busker, a smiley cashier.

Make rituals of small, easy pleasures: a great cup of fresh coffee in the morning, cuddling the cat, reading a poem or short story before bed, lounging in the bath, listening to your favourite band as you prep tea, watching comedy shows with your feet up on the sofa.

Make bucket lists of things big and small that you want to do and do them. Don't put them off.

Love your children. Spend time with them. Encourage their interests. Teach them and learn from them. I'd rather be less well off financially and see more of DC than have material wealth and be too tired to have fun with them. (I know those aren't the only two options but in my case, they were the choices.)

Decide what your own values are and live by them. I don't give a toss that our kitchen is ancient and out of date or that we have the uncoolest car in our area. I'd rather spend what money we have on travel and concerts and theatre shows.

I love this, @WinterParakeets especially the first paragraph, it took me a long time to realise this but the release it gives is tremendous!

Mongrelsrbeautiful · 09/12/2023 13:52

Time is short, live for today. On that note I've just applied for early retirement. Also there's no point having loads of money in the bank - if you need care, your children won't get it anyway. Or your house for that matter. Most of all, what you look like really doesn't matter as much as you think. Also, men are selfish arses and it's fine to be single and child free. The invisibility of early 50's is fantastic. (Though I'm actually in a 30 plus year relationship). To be happy - concentrate on the good things.

SleepingStandingUp · 09/12/2023 13:52

A diagnosis is an idea, not a guarantee.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 09/12/2023 13:56

Time flies.

Chickenkeev · 09/12/2023 13:56

WinterParakeets · 09/12/2023 13:32

Not everyone likes you and that is absolutely fine. I used to be a people pleaser, desperate to be liked. Now I don't give a damn and am much happier.

If you want something, take action towards it, whether you feel like it or not. Don't wait to be in the mood for a run or in the mood to write a page etc. Just do it.

Find deep pleasure in small, easy things; free things: watching birds feed in the garden, dogs bouncing around a park, sunlight through the trees, a good busker, a smiley cashier.

Make rituals of small, easy pleasures: a great cup of fresh coffee in the morning, cuddling the cat, reading a poem or short story before bed, lounging in the bath, listening to your favourite band as you prep tea, watching comedy shows with your feet up on the sofa.

Make bucket lists of things big and small that you want to do and do them. Don't put them off.

Love your children. Spend time with them. Encourage their interests. Teach them and learn from them. I'd rather be less well off financially and see more of DC than have material wealth and be too tired to have fun with them. (I know those aren't the only two options but in my case, they were the choices.)

Decide what your own values are and live by them. I don't give a toss that our kitchen is ancient and out of date or that we have the uncoolest car in our area. I'd rather spend what money we have on travel and concerts and theatre shows.

That's really lovely, and has given me pause for thought. Thank you!

CrotchetyQuaver · 09/12/2023 13:59

Enjoy the simple things in life
Some people you might consider to be on the friend spectrum can be back stabbing bar stewards.

Ultimately it's up to you to make yourself happy, however you need to achieve that. It's OK to look out for number one and say no.

saveforthat · 09/12/2023 14:00

That you can't please everyone so you better please yourself. (Also a song but so true).

Fairylightgirl · 09/12/2023 14:01

that

everyone can be a dick and everyone makes mistakes....

and most importantly - those that look like they have perfect lives usually don't.