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Girl at work on Only Fans

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FunnysInLaJardin · 04/12/2023 21:09

Found out today that a girl at work was on only fans. They had to tell her it wasn’t suitable and so I think she stopped.

I find that all most odd. Just the feeling of lifting a stone and finding all sorts underneath. Not comfortable at all with it and now wondering who else is at it

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WhamBamThankU · 04/12/2023 23:12

@Digestivechocolate my partners ex calls herself a sex worker and uses OF

NumberTheory · 04/12/2023 23:17

I get the being upset with it, the commodification of women as sex objects affects the way all women are viewed and treated in society.

But it annoys the fuck out of me that they will tell the woman it's not suitable for her do Only Fans but I bet the idea of telling the men it's not suitable for them to watch it would get laughed out of the office.

PGmicstand · 04/12/2023 23:18

TheSpruce · 04/12/2023 22:25

Anyone else noticed these someone at work is on OF threads appearing fairly regularly?

Always lacking any real detail, just a few goady lines which hope to get a pile on. Pretty much always fail.

Yes, something very similar recently. A bit of half headed pearl clutching from OP and the thread fizzled out.

OP isn't unreasonable to have a negative opinion; everyone is entitled to their opinion. However OP is unreasonable to imply that others should join in with the disapproval of what someone else does in their own time. Particularly when it has no impact on OP at all.

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 04/12/2023 23:22

As long as she is doing it of her own choice then honest to fucking Christ, who gives a shit.

Seriously, how on earth does it have any baring on your life?

Clafoutie · 04/12/2023 23:33

PGmicstand · 04/12/2023 23:18

Yes, something very similar recently. A bit of half headed pearl clutching from OP and the thread fizzled out.

OP isn't unreasonable to have a negative opinion; everyone is entitled to their opinion. However OP is unreasonable to imply that others should join in with the disapproval of what someone else does in their own time. Particularly when it has no impact on OP at all.

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OP isn't unreasonable to have a negative opinion; everyone is entitled to their opinion. However OP is unreasonable to imply that others should join in with the disapproval of what someone else does in their own time. Particularly when it has no impact on OP at all.

I agree with this. The OP does have a right to their opinion, but the language used about lifting a stone and finding things underneath is particularly unpleasant, and actually quite revelatory in itself.

PGmicstand · 04/12/2023 23:38

Yes, deliberately goady language used by OP.

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MyLadyTheKingsMother · 05/12/2023 07:14

WhamBamThankU · 04/12/2023 23:11

I get where you're coming from. My partners ex does it and initiates filthy chats on Twitter etc when the kids are in the house. She's done videos on the settee they sit on and table they have breakfast at and I find it ducking disgusting.

WON'T SOMEBODY THINK OF THE CHILDREN!

Chill. Out. Judging. Others. Prude.

Unless she is involving the kids in her activities she is doing nothing wrong.

Forgotmylogindetails · 05/12/2023 07:18

Why would you even worry about it ?

BoobyDazzler · 05/12/2023 07:28

SylvieLaufeydottir · 04/12/2023 21:12

I hate to tell you this, but all the people you work with are naked under their clothes and almost all of them have sex.

🙀🙀

Lochness1975 · 05/12/2023 07:30

Her life, her business, keep your beak out and mind your own.

legalseagull · 05/12/2023 07:34

Daytime crowd here - mind your own business. What's it got to do with you? How does it affect you at all? Making she needs / wants the extra money and enjoys it?

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 05/12/2023 07:35

Thelnebriati · 04/12/2023 21:20

You also work with men who buy sex.

Probably men who use Only Fans. Hopefully the employers not being sexist about this issue and making it clear that no employee is allowed to be on or use the sight otherwise it's sexual discrimination. Buying content is far worse then supplying it in my opinion.

LegoDeathTrap · 05/12/2023 07:38

You’re calling a 45yo “girl”? 🙄🙄🙄

widowtwankywashroom · 05/12/2023 07:39

Keep your nose out you judgy old woman!

Lelophants · 05/12/2023 07:40

all these comments saying “mind your own business” and yet in another thread these same posters would say it was distressing and men were just using her. Yeah I’d find it really weird too and personally I do think it’s sad these days.

determinedtomakethiswork · 05/12/2023 07:41

RobertaFirmino · 04/12/2023 21:12

Poor woman. Feeling like her only option is to do OF. I hope she's managed to get herself out of whatever scrape she was in.

I don't think that's true for many people on there.

determinedtomakethiswork · 05/12/2023 07:42

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Of course, it is sex work. What else is it?

itsmyp4rty · 05/12/2023 07:43

I think it's really depressing that so many women are doing OF, often thinking it will be an easy way to make money. Aspiring to be a sex worker is a new low IMO.

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boamorte · 05/12/2023 07:46

Girl? She's nearly fifty

JustWhatWeDontNeed · 05/12/2023 07:46

Unless it's impacting your work or you think she's at risk, it's not really any of your business. It's hardly outrage of the century.

How do you know about it?

If I thought I could make enough money to justify the effort and didn't have to show my face, I'd be at it too!

AlwaysGinPlease · 05/12/2023 07:47

FunnysInLaJardin · 04/12/2023 21:09

Found out today that a girl at work was on only fans. They had to tell her it wasn’t suitable and so I think she stopped.

I find that all most odd. Just the feeling of lifting a stone and finding all sorts underneath. Not comfortable at all with it and now wondering who else is at it

Not comfortable with what exactly? It doesn't affect you at all. Jealous?

SwishSwashSwooshSwersh · 05/12/2023 07:50

no one’s business. If she was a teacher or similar I’d agree it was inappropriate and should stop but otherwise nobody’s business. You’ve no idea what her financial outgoings are.

Beezknees · 05/12/2023 09:17

WhamBamThankU · 04/12/2023 23:11

I get where you're coming from. My partners ex does it and initiates filthy chats on Twitter etc when the kids are in the house. She's done videos on the settee they sit on and table they have breakfast at and I find it ducking disgusting.

So presumably you never have sex anywhere in your home other than your bed, and never when the kids are there.