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Anyone else feel bad they’ve not done elf on the shelf?

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Blackdore · 01/12/2023 12:44

My son is 5 and we’ve never done it. I was considering it this year, but I decided not to…DP thinks it’s ridiculous.

I’m now seeing posts on Facebook, instagram and TikTok showing the elf doing silly things and not just the elf, but also a 1st December box, a North Pole breakfast etc etc.

My son got an advent calendar and that is it!

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Talktometellmeyourname · 01/12/2023 17:29

Nope. Don’t feel bad at all. i can’t be arsed. Mine have enough at Christmas. That’s plenty.

Firapple · 01/12/2023 17:35

Wonderblue · 01/12/2023 17:08

Deck the Halls is the best Christmas film.

DS (11) loves it, which is why I've seen the bloody thing several times! WHY do you like it?

At its best, I want to say 'Look, can we ignore the Christmas lights rivalry, and someone explain why Kristen Chenoweth's total blonde babe character is married to Danny 'Looks Like a Balding Dalek' de Vito, and trails devotedly around the country after him as he quits jobs and moves on, and no one thinks this is at all weird? Why is she even IN this film? She's insanely talented!

Why does the garage owner buy one of his own cars from Danny de Vito? Why, given that Danny de Vito is clearly a phenomenally talented salesman, is his self-esteem so fragile that he gets obsessed with his house being visible from space? And why isn't it visible, given that it's about twenty feet from Matthew Broderick's character's house, and that is apparently visible?

Does Kristin Davis ever play anything apart from loyal, devoted, slightly prissy suburban moms?

What's going on with the weird gay panic that ensues when Danny De Vito climbs naked into Matthew Broderick's sleeping bag to warm him when he falls through the ice? And which is so terrible it needs to be redeemed with that scene where both of them leer and shut 'Who's your daddy?' at three teenage girls who turn out to be their own daughters, thereby redeeming gay panic by a suggestion of incest?

Mystro202 · 01/12/2023 17:48

It's not too late!! Your son doesn't know how long it lasts. Maybe you could do it for a week or so leading up to Christmas , that's what I plan on doing. I'm not dedicated enough to do it for a whole month 😆

Wonderblue · 01/12/2023 17:50

Firapple · 01/12/2023 17:35

DS (11) loves it, which is why I've seen the bloody thing several times! WHY do you like it?

At its best, I want to say 'Look, can we ignore the Christmas lights rivalry, and someone explain why Kristen Chenoweth's total blonde babe character is married to Danny 'Looks Like a Balding Dalek' de Vito, and trails devotedly around the country after him as he quits jobs and moves on, and no one thinks this is at all weird? Why is she even IN this film? She's insanely talented!

Why does the garage owner buy one of his own cars from Danny de Vito? Why, given that Danny de Vito is clearly a phenomenally talented salesman, is his self-esteem so fragile that he gets obsessed with his house being visible from space? And why isn't it visible, given that it's about twenty feet from Matthew Broderick's character's house, and that is apparently visible?

Does Kristin Davis ever play anything apart from loyal, devoted, slightly prissy suburban moms?

What's going on with the weird gay panic that ensues when Danny De Vito climbs naked into Matthew Broderick's sleeping bag to warm him when he falls through the ice? And which is so terrible it needs to be redeemed with that scene where both of them leer and shut 'Who's your daddy?' at three teenage girls who turn out to be their own daughters, thereby redeeming gay panic by a suggestion of incest?

I think you’re overthinking it 🤣

I don’t know why I like, generally I dislike Christmas films. Maybe that’s why I like this one, because it’s so ridiculous.

gotmychristmasmiracle · 01/12/2023 17:51

No and don't feel guilty at all x

LuluBlakey1 · 01/12/2023 17:53

No, Never do it and don't care. 3DC sitting at the kitchen table with pots of paint, glue, glitter, felt tips and felt happily making Christmas cards- no thought of Elf on a Shelf.

VickyEadieofThigh · 01/12/2023 17:57

One of our local pubs has stuck an elf in the centre of the dartboard.

Daisies12 · 01/12/2023 18:09

no, don’t feel bad for not buying into pressure to buy crap and pose for social media. Do whatever you want to do as a family

IamFamousIam · 01/12/2023 18:12

Everyone giving in because their child is sad because the elf came to their friends house are just passing on the pressure to other parents.

Large scale commercial pester power and grown adults are falling for me it.

Mumof1andacat · 01/12/2023 18:14

Never done it. Ds is 11 next month. I just don't have the time to do it.

CheekyHobson · 01/12/2023 18:15

Nope. Those haunted dolls can stay TF away from my house. I feel nothing but smugness and pity when someone starts going on about what their naughty elf has gotten up to now.

Parker231 · 01/12/2023 18:16

Never did Elf, 1st December boxes or Christmas Eve boxes. No Christmas PJ’s, bedding or Christmas jumpers. DT’s survived.

Throwhandsupintheair · 01/12/2023 18:52

Nope. I think it’s silly to start something which you have to do for a month every year until your child no longer believes. So you’re feeling tired, ill, bad day etc but still have to come up with something fun for an elf to do. Fuck that for a game of soldiers.

I also question the motives of those who post about it on social media. They are either doing it for likes or to suck others into it in a kind of ‘yes jump in the water’s really warm! (when it’s actually freezing cold) way.

Resist!

I did homemade advent calendars and we will put a tree up. That’s about it.

inloveandmarried · 01/12/2023 18:58

Try Mouse on the wall instead!
Non commercial and so sweet.
Each advent day the mouse appears and counts down until Christmas.

You change the removable stickers on the wall each day without the children knowing.

The mouse gets ready for Christmas. It's so sweet and the illustrator does all her own designs. Beautiful artwork, definitely a refreshing change from Elf on the Shelf.

owlandbrolly.com/

kalokagathos · 01/12/2023 20:04

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