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Original poster

to get annoyed when others think im odd, just because i live next door to my mum and dad and do loads of things with them?

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spotthedog · 13/03/2008 13:00

like going on holiday with them, my dh gets on great with my dad and when they do for a drink they go together,and they both love fishing. we all love to go to majorca on holiday so we go together, and we have a ds nearly 2 and we get alot of babysitting help from them. me and my mum enjoy going to aquaaerobics so we go together.
but people in our village have been calling us odd.
just because we are really close.
i hope im this close to ds when he grows up.
are they just envious?
or is it because we live next door to them? them amount of times people of said oh i couldn't do that[ie live next door] in a snotty sniffy way

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AbbeyA · 13/03/2008 13:56

It makes a pleasant change to find someone who gets on with parents and in-laws. If you are happy that is all that matters-take no notice of everyone else.

Original poster
spotthedog · 13/03/2008 13:59

how the hell do i sound smarmy? are you ?

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Izzybel · 13/03/2008 13:59

Don't know why people see it as odd! People build extentions and buy houses with little flats added on to them, so that their parents can come and live with them. Whole families used to live together once (mums, dads, children, grandparents etc) and still do in some cultures.

If anything it is nice that you get on so well and your DH gets on with his inlaws!

YeahBut · 13/03/2008 14:00

The closest we have lived to either set of parents since dh and I married has been 400 miles. It must be wonderful for your ds to see his parents and grandparents enjoying a lovely relationship. If it works for you, sod what anyone thinks.
BTW, living away from your immediate and extended family is actually a relatively modern phenomenon.

mrsruffallo · 13/03/2008 14:01

I don't know, I find when people assume everyone's jealous of them they come across a bit smarmy

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spotthedog · 13/03/2008 14:03

oh right, so you actually have no reason to think that then?

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littlelapin · 13/03/2008 14:05

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mrsruffallo · 13/03/2008 14:07

Are you quite alright?
You sound a bit angry
I didn't finf cod's challenge amusing either but you sound enraged
Anyway, it's lovely for tyour son to have his grandparents play a big part in his life.

mrsruffallo · 13/03/2008 14:09

You obviuosly don't think you are being unreasonable, tho' so why post here if it is going to upset you?

HuwEdwards · 13/03/2008 14:10

I don't know about odd, but let's face it, it is unusual.

FluffyMummy123 · 13/03/2008 14:10

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FluffyMummy123 · 13/03/2008 14:11

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bundle · 13/03/2008 14:12

i would love to live closer to my mum

FluffyMummy123 · 13/03/2008 14:13

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mrsruffallo · 13/03/2008 14:14

You can probably be too close to your parents tho'..like the mother and 30 something son who who still live together. You know, the kind where he calls he mother in a sarcy way and sits on her knee wierd kind of relationship. But if you get on well, that's fine.

Original poster
spotthedog · 13/03/2008 14:15

why is it odd then cod? yes unusual, but not odd.

and whats up with ACQUEA AEROBICS as you call it?

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FluffyMummy123 · 13/03/2008 14:15

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lollipopmother · 13/03/2008 14:15

I live 5 mins away from my parents, it's good but it's also bad. It is definitely unusual to live next door, can't say I know a single person who has a husband and kids who also live next to their parents, but if it's what you like then it's your life, not worth getting pissy about other people finding it weird.

I'm not sure it's anything to do with jealousy though, it's just that they haven't come across that sort of arrangement before. People who say 'ohh I couldn't do that' are just telling the truth, just like you tell the truth when you say you like it. I would be surprised if every single person who says this are also snotty. I would say exactly the same but I woldn't be snotty - how you perceive it though is a different kettle of fish!

Chequers · 13/03/2008 14:16

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HerReasonableness · 13/03/2008 14:16

I could not live too close to my rentals, it would make me insane. But my sister lives across the road from my dad and stepmum, and she and her DH socialise with them all the time. Do I think this is a bit odd for a 27 year old? A bit - but she's happy, so that's what matters!

(LL here, by the way)

sparklyfairypie · 13/03/2008 14:17

as long as your happy fek the rest of them

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spotthedog · 13/03/2008 14:19

should be alright for you then cod.

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girlfrommars · 13/03/2008 14:21

I adore my mother. I couldn't cope with living within 200 miles of her.
You adore your mother.
You live next door to her.
Wouldn't it be boring if we were all the same.

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spotthedog · 13/03/2008 14:22

or maybe bowls would be more your age group?

cod is your life really that depressing?

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bundle · 13/03/2008 14:22

i can't imagine any drawbacks with my mum, she's lovely and has her own (busier than my) social life