@housethatbuiltme
Bizarre that your take from my post is that I find children who don't have a father (or mother for that matter) offensive. I most certainly don't.
It's truly wonderful to hear you have such a wonderful relationship with your mother and that you feel she is much better than all of your friends' mothers and fathers.
That's, however, got nothing to do with the fact that I have decided I couldn't personally live with creating a child in a lab with donor sperm who from the get go will grow up with no father and idea who they are until they grow up...not because there would be anything "offensive about their existence" but because it would be entirely selfish of me.
If I died, that child would have to go into care for a start. I don't have relatives who could take them in and care for them until adulthood.
I've read study after study through my research work as a lecturer which backs up that this route is more often than not psychologically harmful for the child and that these impacts last into adulthood.
And last of all, my own mother didn't expect that she'd become ill when she had me but I began helping care for her as a toddler and I, as a result, didn't have much of a childhood. It would have made a huge difference to have my own father take on the caring role but he wasn't around. If I were to become as ill unexpectedly, I wouldn't want my child to suffer either as a carer or again by having to go into care (as was threatened many times in my own childhood) because I would be the only parents around. My decision is around what is kindest and fairest for a potential child.
I am allowed my own opinions on whether the sperm donor route is right for me. You don't get to police that.
Please don't involve me any further in discussion, my decisions aren't about you.