To have sent this text?

[schitts]

I've been on a few dates with a lovely guy, however, I have cancelled the past two just due to genuinely being busy. We were meant to go a walk tomorrow afternoon but I just have been feeling a bit sick about it recently as I feel like dating is a distraction and it's taking mental and physical energy away from other things I need to concentrate on. He text this morning asking how I was and so I replied this,

'Hey, Hope you’re good! I have been thinking and I’ve enjoyed chatting with you and getting to know you a bit but I’m just so busy the now I just think there’s no point meeting up. It’s not going to go anywhere, there’s so much time passed between our last date (my fault) and I just think it’s going to be like that due to how busy I am and probably won’t progress so don’t want to waste your time. I have one day off a week the next couple of months and I really just feel like I need to be spending that with my kids and concentrating on them. Things will settle down for me around march once I qualify so who knows then. But at the moment I just feel like I’m getting pulled in different directions and I need to just concentrate on the kids and my placement and work before anything else. I’ll miss chatting with you though, have enjoyed it, you’re great and funny 😆 sorry just want to be upfront and stop wasting your time as I’ve cancelled past few meet ups. X'

I thought it was decent enough as we have been in touch for 7 weeks now so didn't want to just disappear. He text me back saying,

'No worries, take care x'

But my friend has now said she is cringing for me that I wrote a big text like that to someone I 'barely know' and she reckons he will be showing his pals and laughing.

Maybe I should have just written something shorter and more to the point?

Is this embarassing?

Honestly the whole 'I'm so busy' thing is a bit over the top but then it generally is when people go on and on about it. You could have made it much shorter and that's reflected in his v short reply. Not sure I'd call it cringe though as your friend said.

Oh you got back in touch after that ? Yes you and your message sound ridiculous.

Yes his response should have been the end of it. It would have been if OP had been genuine. The whole “I’m so busy and you are not” tone of the original message sounded off to me, but now it seems OP was more wanting to make this man beg for her attention or tell her she was worth the wait, and it didn’t go to plan. Hence the back pedalling.

Who cares? Your friend is not an appointed arbiter of correctly written 'sorry, thanks and goodbye' messages.

You wrote what you wanted to say and he replied without inferring he was annoyed or upset. If he does show it to all and sundry as a pathetic example of such a message (highly unlikely), you won't know and it won't reflect on you, only him.

PS next time have more confidence in yourself. As an adult you don't need to check your messages with your friend, especially as it seems you had already sent it when you did.

Op did someone hack your account ? You started off pretty normal sounding with wordy posts and your long text to the bloke you were dating but the last two updates seem a little.. odd ?

@onwardsup4

The original message she sent him always had these weird mixed messages in it. Just a whole bunch of people chose not to notice?

Doubt this was ever about a friend finding it cringey. It was always about getting a few words in response when she was trying to provoke something else.

Yep, looks like the case