To send this text?

[idontgive]

Met a man at an event 6 weeks ago, hit it off. We had two good dates and lots of texting in between (my schedules been so busy just with time of year and kids so text for two weeks before 1st date then another two for 2nd and another 2 before meant to meet for third today).

So today we had arranged to meet for lunch for a third date. We were texting as normal up until Tuesday where during our conversation he abruptly just replied, 'cool' no kisses etc which isn't normal. So I naturally just let convo end there.

Heard nothing since and lunch today came and went. I had to confirm the date last time so thought I'd leave it up to him.

Should I text him something like, 'well that's that then, have enjoyed chatting with you past few weeks. Take care' or is that just pathetic?

I do think he's a nice guy I just think probably too much time between dates and lost interest. Or is it better to just delete his number and not give him a text?

I wouldn't text him. If he wanted to speak to you he'd have text you by now.

I'm in the phase where I'm like maybe he's died 🤣

What is it with these spineless men who don’t have the balls to say they don’t want to continue dating and just ghost you instead?

Pathetic.

Glad I’m staying single.

Hope you can go out with your mates this weekend OP.

What do you want to get from that message? Are you telling he 'that's that then' or are you asking him if it is? If you're going to message then my advice would be to decide why, what you're asking or saying and say it directly. These hinty messages are a bit wishy washy.

what was the last message that he replied “cool” to? Could he have taken it the wrong way?

Ask him if he's died? Then ignore him

Definitely don’t send that - even though you’re hurt, it sounds needy and you want to rise above that. I’m wondering what his ‘cool’ reply was to - it needs context in case you were blunt or something…

I just want him to know that I noticed what he did, I didn't forget about the planned date. And I am telling him that's that rather than askin him. Maybe I should be more direct.

No not blunt at all. We had been voice noting back and forth. I then asked him about his dogs and training as my one is being really challenging at the moment. He told me what he does. I replied that I will need to try that with mine as she's driving me crazy and he replied 'cool'. I have wracked my brain trust me and there's nothing I said that could even be taken the wrong way.

We also had a really fun, bantery rapport so would be surprised if I offended him

Nooooo!! Don't text him that. Looks needy and he will think you're still interested. Just block and move on

Do not send that text, it read as if you’re leaving the door open to him replying with some guff about why he didn’t confirm or attend your date! I’d block and move on, if he wanted to progress things he’d have made the effort I’m afraid.

Isn't blocking harsh and unnecessary since he's not got in touch? Fair enough if he wouldn't stop getting in touch, but having the opposite problem 🤣

@idontgive We were texting as normal up until Tuesday where during our conversation he abruptly just replied, 'cool' no kisses etc which isn't normal. So I naturally just let convo end there.

Heard nothing since and lunch today came and went. I had to confirm the date last time so thought I'd leave
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Why did you let the conversation end there? - why not ask then and there why it was such an out-of-character text?

No, don't send that. There might be a very good reason for his no show and you might wish you hadn't sent it.

Either - do nothing. Don't text but don't block so he can contact you in the event there is a genuine emergency.

Or - message him a nice message to say "Sorry you couldn't make it today. Do you want to rearrange?" and leave it at that.

I’d do nothing. Ball is in his court to get in touch. It would need something pretty compelling to excuse it though.

Aww sorry he's done this to you as you are obviously into him.

He sent a blunt text and let a lunch date pass with no mention of it.

If he was in to you, none of the above would happen.

Don't be his second choice.

He's either had what he perceives as a better offer, or he's gone off you.

Have you had sex yet?

How old is he?

I think if anything he's probably bored? Pre date three is possibly too soon to be talking about something as mundane as dog training. Dating is a tough game these days, or so I hear.

I think you need to play it cooler than you are.either give the man a call so there can be no ambiguity or lost in translation or if you really must, text him a light and breezy "hey Hope you're okay. We never did make that lunch today. Do you fancy doing something next week?"

We had been voice noting back and forth. I then asked him about his dogs and training as my one is being really challenging at the moment. He told me what he does. I replied that I will need to try that with mine as she's driving me crazy and he replied 'cool'. I have wracked my brain trust me and there's nothing I said that could even be taken the wrong way

Maybe it’s just me but I wouldn’t take “cool” so negatively from that exchange you describe or think it required kisses especially as you were going back and forth. Maybe the topic didn’t interest him and he had nothing more to say on it.

I definitely wouldn’t send that text as it doesn’t make you look good. Like another person said you need to think what you want from getting in contact again.

I probably did bore him tbh 🤣 yes not dating again. It was only because I met him organically I thought why not?

Please don't apologize to him that he couldn't make it! What on earth?

He is perfectly able to text/reschedule. He's opted not to. Silence is an answer. Let him be!

I could not be bothered contacting him, his loss .... block and move forward

I think you’ve read way too much into him just saying ‘cool’ tbh!

Why play games? If you liked him you should’ve text to confirm the date, if you still potentially like him just text & say like someone said above something like ‘so we never did lunch, fancy meeting up xyz…’

Same, it’s just that there was nothing more for him to say on the topic, surely?