DH has booked to go on a cycling event abroad that is happening on the Saturday after Easter. Best case scenario is he goes on Friday and returns on Sunday. I suspect it will be longer. He booked without discussing with me or kids.
For the last few years, we have gone on a week long family holiday over Easter. Due to other family commitments, the only possible time for us to be away as a family next year was from the Tues to Saturday after Easter. Now it will be Tues to Thurs, so reduced by 2 days and possibly more as I suspect time will be needed to polish the bike.
The context is that probably every second weekend he spends a day cycling with friends. Every couple of months he will go on long weekends cycling with friends. I don't normally mind. I think in the grand scheme of things I am a very low demand wife. I don't make a fuss about much and I don't stop him from doing things he wants to do. Very occasionally I have got annoyed because even though kids are teens and not difficult to manage at all, he 's still just assuming that I will be the default parent and be around to talk to them / ensure they aren't out all night / be present while he goes off on yet another ride.
I do, however, feel quite annoyed this time. It probably means that we won't go away as a family after all. So let's put it out to public opinion:
Yabu - it's unreasonable to expect DH to at least have a brief conversation with his family before booking something that impacts on the whole family's holiday. A man's bike is his castle and he must be allowed to do what he wants with it.
Yanbu - yes, it's bloody annoying when your DH consistently priorities time with his bike over time with his family, assumes you will just hold the fort without asking and makes decisions that affect others without even having a discussion first.