Aibu to not expect the school to educate my dc?

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Met a teacher friend for coffee, her child is 11 like mine & are in the same class both would be high achieving.
I mentioned to my friend that I do extra at home with my dd, she has extra maths, literacy, geography & history which she really enjoys doing & reads lots in her spare time.
My teacher friend said she shouldn't be doing this extra work that it's up to the teacher & school to educate the children in their care.
I disagree as there is 30 in a class & all different levels. My dd enjoys going beyond the basics & is thriving in school.
Aibu or is the teacher friend? (according to my child the teachers daughter does lots of extension work with her mum. She never mentioned this to me just criticised me for going the extra mile with my child!)

Homework can be a huge stressor and not key to academic success at all. Dd goes to a non-selective indie and it gets slightly better results than the local grammar. Grammar piles on the homework and has a lot of girls with MH issues etc, ours doesn't. Just be led by your child. Mine was more of a carrot than stick learner so I decided not to put her in a highly stressful environment. If your child is happy they will find what they love and focus.

I'm a teacher.

My parents were always doing educational things with me but I only realized this as an adult. Museum trips etc. It wouldn't have been extra homework.

I was baking last night and thought, how great would it be to do a maths unit around baking, because of measuring, adding fractions etc. It would never be (fully) possible in my school where all KS2 classes are 32 and the spare money is zero. But it would be a great thing to do at home. That kind of enrichment is really appealing to me and when a child talks about that kind of activity, I often see the results in school because they have context for their learning.

I don't think what you are doing will harm anyone, unless it's a real slog at home, but I always try to assign practical homework tasks and the most important thing is to read as much as possible.

The education system is shocking right now. It’s definitely worsened since my eldest two were in school. I’d agree that extra work at home if the child wants to learn is never a bad thing. There are plenty of resources online and on YouTube etc these days. My daughter is always complaining about having substitute teachers and classes messing about and she’s now GCSE year. Since Covid the system seems even worse, it’s as if everyone has given up bothering.

As a nanny I’ve seen lots of parents who say they aren’t doing any extra but then their child lets slip that they were doing x, y, z at home but their mums were very critical of others doing extra. The only reason I could see for this is that they either wanted people to think their child is super clever naturally or they want them to go to “the best” secondary school and didn’t want competition from the child’s friends as places are limited so down played it in order to not make other mums think of doing the same. If your child enjoys it, can cope with it etc then there’s nothing wrong with it

You said she enjoys it/ wants it so of course it’s fine. As long as any info is correct.
schools teach a lot but some thing need practising to go in.