Aibu to ask for a bag for a special b day ( like 50th)

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Hi , its a ‘ special’ b day this year. My d step m asked me what I wd like for my b day and referred to it as my special b day.

i said a certain bag which is £80

i admit i half heartedly felt i had to check it was ok and said if its too much £ tell me

she is not struggling for money . She has several holidays a year . Not skegness! But we are talking african and indian tours.

I got a message saying i will give you £ 60 towards the bag

with all the choices she have i wd have liked her to make the choice to buy the bag

ive messaged saying as my b day drawers nearer i feel that i dont want to contribute to my b day present and explained i was simply being polite asking if it was too much and that people do like to be treated .

aibu?
She treats herself and i just wanted that to be applied to me .

I know it may sound childish. History here .

OP never said her biological mum is dead.
Her mum could still be alive. She said she’s been her step mother since she was 6 and her dad has sadly passed. She did not state when her dad passed, it could have been 20 years ago or it could have been last year. She also doesn’t state that her step mother has raised her.

This must be a reverse, surely the OP cant be this entitled

Boomboom22 thank you i was asked what i wanted , given her lifestyle i didnt think it was too much . I also gave cheaper options .
why hold back 20 quid ? Its not the money.. i can but my own bag .. its the thought

Yes. Regularly.
My dh and I can afford a lot of stuff but refuse because we feel its too much for what it is.
For teens, ie trainers I wont pay 80-120 or whatever but will happily give them money towards it.
For anyone who asks for expensive perfume etc I'll offer to go shares with someone else, or give money towards.
YABU and really cheeky.

@Boomboom22 to answer your question my parents usually spend £50. They are reasonably well off and probably could spend more if they wanted to. In fact, if they reduced their lovely retirement lifestyle they could spend a lot more. Doesn't mean they should though. It's up to them what they spend.

And I certainly wouldn't send them a whining message complaining about it

I agree op, it seems bizarre to quibble over 20 quid, it's not terribly generous of her