Ridiculous comments about red hair

[SweetSouls]

My child has a lot of fiery red hair. They are a year old.

They get lots of nice comments - old ladies in particular love him.

However I get some weird ones too. ‘Still ginger’, one of my friends comments whenever they see him.

Well this morning on the train, a woman came up to me to tell me my child would be very badly bullied at school because of the way they look.

They are one year old. Why would someone come and say that to me? It is absolutely bizarre.

Seems like I need to get a new bingo card out…

Staying on topic of the OP, yeah, it's real rubbish - but also of no consequence!

As the child of a dad who had ginger hair, I can tell you that even though my dad's nickname was 'ginge', he definitely was not bullied.

And a real bonus - he did not go grey until his mid 80s. He went brown (I believe because he was more auburn? The more ginger seem to become blonde rather than grey?). I always remember wondering why everyone called him ginge, because he was 42 when I was born, and I only ever remember him having brown hair.

There are people who will find reason to try to pt fear in your heart about the slightest thing - someone once said of my then-baby boy, 'oh, what a lovely head of hair! That means he'll go bald very early!'

I have had people say, "Its' not so bad for a girl." Which is lovely isn't it.

They are rude for making those comments.

However, as regards your son, you need to install a positive attitude about his hair from an early age.

My cousin had red hair growing up. Very sleek and shiny and striking. She did receive some negative comments (which is ridiculous but there you go) and from the age of about 11 she started mucking about with bleach. She is 43 now and has never had her natural colour. Her once shiny, sleek hair is now a permanently frazzled white/blonde and badly damaged and is constantly snapping off.

When I was 18 I started work with a woman with ginger hair - lighter than my cousins and not as naturally sleek. But she took great care of it and it was in great condition. She was so, so proud of it and loved being a "ginge".

Nobody could mock her for it because she proudly called herself ginger before anybody else could. It just didn't leave any scope for negativity.

If you can teach your son to embrace his colouring, hopefully he will be the same.

@Meemoos

You've gone to far. Blatant racism now. Reported.

My son has literally the gingerest hair I have ever seen on a person. He's 5 now and totally owns it and hasn't experienced any negativity so far. It's massively different from when I grew up as a ginge in the 90s. I hope it lasts.

DD has fiery red hair, loved by older ladies when she was tiny too. I worried about her being bullied for it but it's really not been that big a deal so far and she's at Secondary - certainly not as big an issue as I thought it was going to be from my school days. I think it helps that their are quite a few red headed celebrities at the minute

Another mark on my bingo card.

Thanks for speaking out x

Staying on topic of the OP, yeah, it's real rubbish - but also of no consequence!

But it clearly IS of consequence for mums who are being pitied for having a red headed baby, or red heads who are having to deal with comments about their pubic hair.

Maybe I am lucky, but no one has ever said a negative word to me or my 9yr old redhead. We still get stopped in the street with compliments on the hair though!

I have found most people very positive and I hope over their life your DC gets the same OP.

My partner was very very ginger when he was young, he suffered a lot of bullying. He died it brown at the beginning of uni time. I found his hair beautiful and with the freckles in my home country he would have been a young model ..

And actually, if you are a white man in this country you're often bottom of the list when applying for jobs now because everyone is so worried about making sure they are 'inclusive'.

Absolute bullshit.

My son has beautiful ginger hair. People are dicks, and that's the truth. Even we have had family say stupid stuff which we now pick up on and ask them to apologise. It's really really annoying people are dicks. But you have to get your child to shrug it off and embrace the beauty of the hair colour. I would recommend using words like "ginger" so they don't see it as an insult themselves - some people avoid using the word which only makes it worse for the child IMHO.

Someone educate me. This an invite. Is it the same? Teasing for a trait is the same as constructive discrimination?

I await a 'discrimination' of this point. Excuse the pun. Feel free to be harsh.

As someone with read hair, I really hate being referred to as ginger. I never had a problem in Scotland, but when my family moved to England when I was a teenager, the insults were frequent.

I'm 70 and my hair has gone a very dark battleship grey. I so wish it would just go white, the dark colour looks so wrong with my skin tone. There does seem to be a difference with losing our hair colour when we are red heads.

@Meemoos
Fucking hell, what a pile of shit you talk. White men being discriminated against?? Lucky I'm wearing my corsets or I'd split my sides laughing! As fucking if.

Non-white people are discriminated against from the moment they are born. Whatever your situation - if you are white, it would be worse if you were not white.

Can you explain which part? I can't see that she has said anything worth reporting?

For the love of god can you stop replying to that poster. I’ve forgotten what this thread is about!

It's common in the north east of England too but the further south you go I agree the comments get worse.

Why would someone come and say that to me?

Mental illness

She expressed her opinion that people of colour are not discriminated against in the workplace @Willyoujustbequiet