DS11 called DS(just turned 2) an annoying little cunt

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How seriously would you take it and how would you deal with it?

I gave ds a hard time for saying 'crap' as a child and I don't regret it. I hate hearing children swear and I don't want it in my house. Dh hated swearing even mote than I do.

I would have told him off BIG time and grounded him. Of course toddlers are annoying. Of course teenagers bond by swearing with each other. That's the point - the child has to learn to control his speech and notice his surroundings.-

Did it just come out before he could stop it? Mine is around the same age and I’m certain she knows it, pretty certain she says it and have a strong inkling if she was offered the chance she’d probably spray it ten foot tall on a building. Kids do revere the power of profanity.

However, she’d not casually say it front of me or any other adult. Which makes me wonder if he knows exactly what he’s said. I wouldn’t do my nut over it but I’d have a serious conversation about the implications of using ‘cunt,’ it’s a powerful but ugly word, and causes a real reaction in some people. It’s also a bit much to be applied to a toddler, no matter how accurate he feels it is.
I also told mine how using that sort of extreme language will make people who don’t know what nice kids they are think they’re wee thugs who’ve been raised by (sweary) wolves, and best avoided. Hopefully it was just a slip of the tongue😜

My son said motherf*cker when he was in primary. I was very shocked (certainly didn’t get it from home) but other kids are exposed to such words in their homes and say them in front of classmates.

🙄 that's some stretch.

So your parents were leaving it to teachers at school to teach you not to swear at school while they didn't have to bother parenting at home. ds's friend's parents left it to me to dish out the consequences when his potty mouth friend was swearing in my home.

Each to their own, but that is lazy and/or "look at me I'm a cool parent" parenting.

Punishment would be my approach to this. My children could never swear on my house. I'm.not saying my eldest daughter doesn't swear outside of the home but that's outside.

But its your home your rules

Son not husband.

After the second post I’m not convinced your son knows it’s a swear word never mind a particularly ‘bad’ one. I think explaining it so you know that he is definitely aware is the fairest thing.

If you hear it again however then it’s punishment/anger territory.

I would wonder what I had done to make my child think it was ok to say that word in the house, much less to another person.

I'd be dealing with it in the moment by saying we don't swear or de-humanise eachother in our house - which would be true. So taking it seriously, but not making it a big deal.

I'd save that for if it was repeated.

Why is cunt so frowned upon? It's a term of endearment in the better parts of the UK.

Because when it’s used as an insult it’s massively misogynistic

I would not be giving measured explanations of that word’s etymology to an 11 year old who called a two year old an “annoying little cunt” (which is a particularly unpleasant way to use it) for no reason. The instinct to use it to show off in entirely the wrong context is one that needs to have cold water poured on it very quickly.

just To prove in true MN fashion it’s always the man fault

Is it really? I don't see men crying when someone calls them a dick or a knob. It's just a word.

I'd probably laugh to myself and think yep.

But, I'd have a chat about him using that language.

I dislike that language. He would be spending a couple of hours in his room, thinking of better ways to speak to his brother.

Some sarcasm actually.

This.

This is the only swear word I have never used and would be absolutely horrified if anyone used it in my hearing. I have no real idea why I have always found it abhorrent as I do swear, but I'm in my 60s and find it totally unacceptable.

I think I would have grounded my son until he was 18 but I suspect that may be considered a little OTT.

@madnessitellyou honestly, I am appalled that my teen uses the language she does and I would be very upset if she used it at any of her teachers. My DD is care experienced and she is blind as a result of her in utero experiences, plus she has autism and ADHD. I am offended constantly by her offensive language. If ever she dared to repeat any of the disgusting words she aims at her much younger sister and I to any of her teachers, I would have to look at a serious sanction - and I would absolutely support any school punishment. So far, my DD only extends her gutter mouth within the family home.