To think encouraging people to send chocolate secretly is not a good idea?

[wokbun]

So Cadbury do this thing where you can send chocolate anonymously to someone. AIBU to think this is not something to be encouraged? I'd be disturbed receiving unexpected chocolate to my home address.

Write a post on Facebook telling everyone you know that you absolutely don't want anonymous chocolate. That should sort it out. Don't take it away from the rest of us though.

With all those companies, the sender's name is on the little card with the package.

I would honestly lose my shit if someone sent anonymous flowers. I'd be agonising trying to think of who it could be and paranoid that I had a stalker.

If it had a card on saying who the sender was, I'd find a jug for them.

It's the anonymity that's scary, especially for a woman living alone.

Well this isn’t the first year they have done it so I assume it was successful previously and most people are just taking it as the light hearted gesture that it is

@Queucumber Noooooooooo! Yukky! 😊😊

This. I've recently found out that a colleague has been sabotaging my work for years and I've gone to my line management over it. If mystery chocolate turned up at my house, I'd think he'd somehow got my address and was doing it to unnerve me in a "I know where you live" kind of way.

The DDog chews most of our mail. If she got hold of a bar of Chocolate she's probably eat that.

I be fuming if the gift was anonymous as I wouldn't know where to send the rather large Vet's Bill.

but anyone can send anything anonymously any time they want?!?!

I would only send Cadbury chocolate to someone I really hated

And???

@wokbun

given it's hugely advertised you'd need to be living under a rock not to have seen something about this. So I don't think the vast majority of people would be scared or upset.

But surely you can see that being able to pin it down to a locale of several hundred thousand people will greatly assist identifying the person who sent it. And it’s not like people can travel to another locale to post it there, can they.

There's apparently a box to tick that says "to the best of my knowledge, no dogs live at this address". Of course, that ticky box will do nothing to stop wrongdoers. I could order a monster bar of Bournville for every house on the street that has a dog, tick that box anyway, and pay for it with a pre-paid anonymous debit card (e.g. https://instacard.uk/) over a VPN. No fingerprints on the packaging, no DNA evidence, no CCTV at the Post Office showing me post the parcels, and the perpetual barking is stopped permanently. It's a good thing that I loathe animal cruelty.

Before you ask who would be warped enough to even think of something like that, my employer pays me to think like this.

@VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia

im a woman, I live alone. Please don't tar us all with your paranoia brush.

one delivery of flowers & you worry about having a stalker??

id be curious who the gift was from. I might hope it's the tall dark handsome stranger I met in the pub/on the train, whilst accepting it's probably one of my friends, or the neighbour who fancies a leg over

but flowers, wine, chocolate... deliver away.

@LadyMacB

no absolutely not, no travelling nope!

😂😂😂

Have you ever answered the phone to hear a total stranger tell you how he plans to rape and murder you? Had an ex still sending you harassing emails six months after breaking up?

Stalking is no fucking joke.

There's nothing to be disturbed about. Anyone can send anything to your address and anyone else's. Anyone who knows about the Cadbury secret santa knows how hard it is to actually get one and from what i've seen online, most people are just after free chocolate and are sending them to their own address.

@VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia

snd cadburys sending a bar of chocolate (which will have branding all over it & marketing stuff.

IS NOT STALKING

And actually I have, yes. Complete with the 'I like your dress, but I prefer the blue one. Change in to your xyz I far prefer it & shit like that.

the police were unable to do anything about it until he attacked me.

Doesn't mean I'd freak out about a bar of chocolate.

You are quite correct, but I very much doubt the wine had been sent directly from the company who made it in that case.

Cadbury are hardly going to take requests for poison to be added to their chocolate pre delivery!!

So many paranoid people on MN - I would hate to live your lives.

As another woman who lives alone I agree - I don't want to be tarred with the paranoia brush either.

if you think someone might be alarmed by this, send some to yourself😀

Yep, that was me, I sent it to my cat.

I was abused whilst being then-undiagnosed autistic. All the social skills you have to mitigate abuse, I don't have. All the social skills you have to detect and avoid an abuser, I don't have.

The researchers found that the women who screened positive for autism had nearly three times the odds of having experienced sexual abuse as those who did not screen positive https://www.spectrumnews.org/news/girls-autism-high-risk-sexual-abuse-large-study-says/

I am very likely to be abused again if I date again, because I am autistic.

Any kind of unexpected inexplicable thing happening in my home, my safe place, my fortress that I have built to keep everyone else out, will have me lose my shit. Especially if that thing looks like a sexual overture from a man. A gift of chocolate is a standard sexual overture. That overture sent anonymously, I'm going to be looking over my shoulder for weeks and scared to go out.

"Is it the guy from the chippy, he knows where I live and he never stops flirting. Shit, he's married, his wife will go spare if it's him. Or maybe the guy who cut my hedge? What about the gas fitter? ..."

If they fill in the details.

Do you not open your fridge incase the little man that switches the fridge light on and off jumps out and scares you?