To think encouraging people to send chocolate secretly is not a good idea?

[wokbun]

So Cadbury do this thing where you can send chocolate anonymously to someone. AIBU to think this is not something to be encouraged? I'd be disturbed receiving unexpected chocolate to my home address.

Forging the Cadbury packaging: easier or harder than forging someone else's handwriting? It makes another option available and gives a plausible excuse for the chocolate turning up at a time other than the recipient's birthday.

How do you know if it actually came from Cadbury's or whether it's a fake or tampered with bar of chocolate?

I can't believe how trusting some of you are. Has nobody watched Poirot?

Exactly! Ooh it's chocolate who cares where it's from! Can buy a bar from the shop and lace it and post it.

I had never heard of it till now, I think I might do it, thanks for the heads up

@haXXor

im so intrigued by your job…

Me too tbh

Would non-anonymous chocolate be fine for dogs then? I thought the point of the thread was to object to the anonymity, not to ban sending any kind of food item as a gift by post.

Ur the type to freak out of a syranger walks past you n says hi lol snowflake central if someone sends you a gift of chocolates eat the chocolate while freaking out it will mske u feel beter lol

Why would you handwrite it?
Type, print out and stick it on front.

I'm pretty good at imitating handwriting though. If I had an example in front of me then I could do it as easy as anything. Wouldn't take time.

nah m8 watcha onnabout nout rong wit 🐝 in snowflake i

In my experience, strangers saying hi are men trying to get into my knickers. So yeah, I do tend to freak out about that.

What kind of fucking weirdo goes around talking to randoms in public anyway?

Bloody hell I pass the time of day with strangers all the time, usually when I am out walking my dog but also in other settings, queues etc. I hope nobody thinks I am trying to get into their knickers. What kind of fucking weirdo doesn't talk to people?

What kind of fucking weirdo doesn't talk to people?

Au autistic woman who has been raped twice, sexually assaulted on top of that, has lost count of the sexual harassments, and is sick of being treated like meat by men. So I don't speak to them, I don't smile at them, I try not to even make eye contact, and I try to walk tall and make myself look bigger and give "I will break your nose if you look at me wrong" vibes. When I drop my guard and stop doing this, I can't walk home from the corner shop without men shouting obscenities at me.

I'm sorry for your experiences which of course will make you guarded but don't come on here calling people who interact normally and politely with strangers "fucking weirdos".

This is batshit. I’m not even going to try to explain why, because if you can’t see it…

Only if you ask for it to be. It’s allowed to send anonymously. As it is from Amazon (as my friend has this very week with some joke presents).

Interflora’s whole business is an advertising campaign promoting it…

Jesus Christ what a depressing (and probably arrogant) mindset!
Normal people say hi to others all the time and pass the time of day. Walking home last night through the high winds and a random bloke at a bus stop commented on the power of the wind. Didn’t occur to me he was at all interested in my knickers - he was just making conversation! I didn’t find it all creepy and replied as I walked past!

But surely you can see not everyone is like your rapist? Or like you? You have particular reasons not to want to engage with people. Doesn’t make those who don’t have your issues ‘fucking weirdos’ for doing it.

I wouldn't eat it unless I knew where it had come from OP!

Whilst that is terrible for you you must know it's absolutely not normal. I've lived iin many different places over the years and have never heard anyone shout obscenities at any else in the street. Its normal for most people to talk to people that they don't know, I can't imagine how you'd live a live otherwise

I don't think it's creepy. Most people are good!
But the thing about putting chocolate through the door is it could be found by a dog and therefore be pretty disastrous. I know ours would eat the whole lot if he found it. We have a mail box on our gate instead so no issues with that here (and no chocolate, boo!)

My experience of men is that far too many are like my rapists (please note the pluralisation). The man who put his hand on my arse on the bus, the two men behind us loudly talking about how they would ask my mother and I for blowjobs as we were walking down the street, the three men who cat-called me from the bus stop. That's just this year.

Let's apply a little logic to this problem by asking the cartesian questions. There's a strange man walking towards me at the train station. Should I say hi to him?

What will happen if I do? He might interpret it as flirtatious. He might misinterpret my acknowledgement of his presence as desire to have a conversation. There are men out there, often autistic or learning disabled, who interpret any interest or kindness from a woman as sexual interest. I recently had to leave a technology museum I was very interested in because one of the volunteers decided that me asking him questions was sexual interest, and because he's volunteer staff I can never go back because he'll be there. The clue, before anyone accuses me of oversensitivity, was when he told me that he liked female visitors coming because one of them might want to date him, whilst following me from exhibit to exhibit.
What will happen if I don’t? Probably NOTHING. And if anything does happen, any witnesses will testify that I didn't invite it.
What won’t happen if I do? NOTHING.
What won’t happen if I don’t? He definitely won't leave me alone.

Bearing in mind that 80% of rape victims know their attacker, why on earth would any woman increase her statistical risk of rape by increasing the number of men she knows through befriending random men?

probably arrogant

Nice way to talk about a multiple rape victim, that. I wasn't humble-bragging about men fancying me, to be utterly clear here. I was talking about male sexual entitlement and male violence.