Am I demanding ? It's a sex one

[tawnyowl22]

Ugh another mismatched libido thread, I apologise.

A very long, cliche story but dh is 49 and I am 36. He has some ED issues and general issues around sex, communication, being open and comfortable with each other etc. it's hard work, I get that he is embarrassed and doesn't want to talk about things but it's incredibly frustrating.

We have compromised at sex 1-2 times a month which always needs to be pre booked so he can take a blue pill. It's not ideal but I am sympathetic and ok with it.

What I'm not ok with is his overall attitude that I just need to suck it up and that this is normal/ok for a marriage in my thirties. If I try and talk about it or suggest ways that we could improve things he just shuts down. Clearly uncomfortable and doesn't want to talk about it.

He's a great dh and dad. I don't want to leave. But sometimes i just think i am missing out so much and i feel sad that we dont have an easy and straightforward sex life. can i improve this?

Really?! Twice a month? That's a low libido.

Right?! Some absolutely crazy posts in this thread 🤯

You have got to decide how important this is to you but you can’t force people to wanting sex more.

if there is more to your relationship than sex why not try other options for yourself to get what you want.

This is what I keep wondering?

Has he developed an illness?

Is he on medication?

Porn addiction?

Prefers to sort himself?

No you can’t improve it.

Your choices are to accept it and live as you are ( and accept things will almost certainly decline further) or leave. It’s a situation of ‘sometimes there is no good choice, but you still have to make choice’.

Or have an affair, but that really is not the great solution people on here make it out to be ( even leaving aside the morality).