I'm going to hell aren't I? What the fuck

[BlackFriYay]

9 ish months ago I was seeing somebody I really liked but was being messed around terribly by. I'm talking ghosting after sex repeatedly, blatantly using me for sex but claiming otherwise.. I suspected he had a girlfriend towards the end but didn't have any proof as he "doesn't do social media". (Lies). Champions league wanker behaviour basically.

I thought I was in love with him at the time and it took me months to get over once I finally decided to cut my losses and move on.

I did some work on my self esteem and when he came crawling back months later (a few weeks ago) and text me asking to see me realised I wasn't into him at all so I cheerily replied no thank you, I'm not interested. Yay for me. He said he was gutted bla bla bla. I didn't reply. Forgot all about him.

The other day it was my DD's birthday and I changed my Instagram picture to one of her when she was born. Unbeknownst to me he has been looking at my social media (which I don't have him as a friend on) and he's sent me an inbox this afternoon saying he has seen that picture and is having a meltdown because he thinks I've had a baby recently and wants to know if it's his!

Now obviously I'm not going to let the silly git think he has an actual child but AIBU to blank his message for a few days and let him see how he likes it 😂

Make the bastard pay for all he did to you!!!

Have fun!!!

It's gotta be this, hilarious 😂

If you don’t like what you read, then you shouldn’t say you aren’t on social media, when you clearly are.

OP I'd happily tap dance through the gates of hell for that day's work.
Let the ghost sweat

This has made me grin with glee, make him sweat, I’ll see ya down there 😁

It's the fact that she owes him NOTHING though. She wants nothing to do with him and why should she. Apparently he hasn't give her the decency of contacting her after sex so why should she put herself out now. He's a blimming idiot anyway, hopefully he'll soon realise the baby isn't his.

Ooh I'd make him sweat too. He deserves it.

In fact I'd never bother to reply to him.

If you do eventually reply, I'd just say 'thankfully not'

Well this has been an entertaining thread 😂

I wouldn’t be in a hurry to reply…maybe post of couple of strong independent women quotes first to let him strew…..🤣😈

Also, for the few people who feel sorry for him.. save your sympathy. He's awful.

When he got back in touch with me 3 weeks ago after we'd had no contact whatsoever it was as though he was trying to book a sex worker.

Initially when I saw he'd text I thought it would be an apology. I still wouldn't be interested but would have respected him slightly more for it.

Nope.

He didn't even try to conceal his intentions, be respectful or apologise for previously. It was literally "hi how are you, sorry for messaging so late, I would like to have one more session with you"

Yep. He said Session!

You're alright ta, I said, I'm not interested.

Then he switched his M.O. slightly and said he was so gutted yada yada.

Crickets from me.

Who does that? He sounded like a drugged up pervert.

What a walker OP - I would suggest not to reply at all. This has been an entertaining thread though so keep having fun with it 😄

Sorry I meant to say wanker..autocorrect didn't like that

I wouldn't reply at all.
&%^* him, let him sweat.

That's amazing.

Presumably he did have some game at some point. What happened?

I think you should open his message, immediately change the picture to random one of a kitten or tree. And then reply ‘There is no baby. Stop stalking me.’

My money is on drugs, or a bang to the head.

It was quite late in the evening, after 10.

The bloke I was getting to know didn't "do" hooking up or casual sex, hadn't had many partners, was a bit shy around women.

He soon found his fucking balls didn't he.

I think, all said and done, he is just another one of the many sharks we find on OLD who will say any old BS to get you into bed. He had probably exhausted his other options and thought he'd try his luck with me. That or he was recently dumped.

Absolute gold 😂

This is brilliant !
nope don’t reply . I wouldn’t give it hours or days. .if I replied I’d give it weeks and say as above .
“thought you didn’t have social media “?
Then block

I’m petty enough to reply with something along the lines of - you think a child that beautiful would share genes with you?! Haha get real and fuck off to the far side of fuck.

@BlackFriYay He sounds like an absolute fuckboy! If you haven't already, I recommend listening to the lalala let me explain podcast. I found it after recently ending an 8 year relationship and so wish I'd found it sooner!!

I'd leave a few days and then go with a simple, "No, not yours."

Not explaining, not clarifying, leaving it open for him to make the next logical leap that you must have been shagging someone else whilst he was messing you around.

Just block him on everything. He doesn't deserve an answer.

Not so.

OP doesn't owe him any reply at all, especially after how he's treated her. Failure to reply isn't pretending anything, it's simply not replying.