Hi,
I’ll be honest, I’ve never heard of Mumsnet until today’s office gossip but I’m in need of brutally honest opinions and I’m hoping you can deliver.
I’m a 56 year old straight man and I’ve fallen madly in love with a woman who started working in my office in August. I know this sounds creepy/weird but I’m old enough to know the difference between a crush and absolutely knowing in my heart my feelings for her.
She’s 42, a widow and has a grown up son who lives abroad. She is everything I want in a partner and I’ve never felt like this before.
Some background info on me:
I’m not the best looking guy in the world and I’m quite overweight. I was in a relationship in my early twenties which resulted in a son who I am close to and I have a 12 year old grandson. My son’s mother passed away years ago.
I have worked offshore for years so haven’t really had any other serious relationships but I haven’t lived the life of a monk either!
I’m quite well off mainly due to my mother leaving me a sizeable inheritance and don’t need to work but I have taken an office job within my sector for something to do. I am seen as everyone’s friend in the office…good for a laugh but I’m certain none of the women would view me remotely in a romantic way.
She is always extremely nice to me in the office (but then I am her boss….a further complication!).
I suppose I had resigned myself to her being out of my league but a couple of things have happened to change my mind:
Gordon Ramsay is the same age as me and he is starting another chapter of his life.
The women in question is talking about leaving so she can spend a prolonged time abroad with her son. I can’t bear not seeing her.
I just want to tell her my feelings - Love Actually style. Am I living my life in some movie cuckoo land? Will I be seen as a creepy perv or should I go for it?