At least in real life. I'm not interested in OLD, I like being single for the most part but if I happen to like a guy I meet then I'm open to a relationship but of course he's almost always in a relationship already. If I like a guy at work there's no way I can let him know if he is already taken. No flirting, no saying "give me your number if you split up with your gf because I'm interested"-all probably socially unacceptable. All emotional cheating or trying to steal a guy away and frowned upon. So I stay single, then if he does finally split up with his gf I can't pounce the minute that happens I have to wait a certain amount of time, or I look like I've been plotting this (well I probably have LOL) so I have to wait a few weeks, also because he'd be on the rebound. By that time some other woman has probably pounced and I've lost my chance AGAIN.
I just think anyone who found a single decent guy must be very very lucky the timing was right. Or I just think there was some overlap, and emotional cheating. I know there are guys who are long-term single but mumsnet thinks this is a "red flag" in itself most of the time. So how does one find a relationship with someone they might actually find attractive exactly?
YANBU-it's hard to start a relationship
YABU-there are eligible bachelors everywhere