To want to find other closeted bi women near me (Kent)?

[ChocBanana]

I recently realised (aged 48, 49 in December) that I am bisexual. I have long thought I was bicurious but I suddenly realised that I was lying to myself, it’s not curiosity, it’s deep down desire for both sexes.
It has knocked me for six a bit but I am finally at peace with it, in my mind at least.
The only person I have told in real life is my husband, who is being very supportive. He is happy for me to sleep with women as long as it isn’t behind his back and I have no plans to leave.
My problem is that now I have accepted it and been accepted, I really, really want to find a woman who is in a similar position but I also don’t want anyone else to know.
I feel like I am finally being true to myself by acknowledging my sexuality but also that I can’t handle the truth getting out.
AIBU to want the best of both worlds? I want a woman I can share a physical and spiritual connection with but I absolutely don’t want an “out” relationship with her, for various reasons I don’t want to go into.
Does such a woman exist or am I just going to have to choose?

@LouJou Certainly you may PM me. Always willing to help. May I ask you to be succinct. Half a page on a PM is too much.

Hey - I just saw this and it totally resonates with me. I’m in Kent too but cannot tell my husband But feel this need in me that I need to explore

Yes please pm me xx

Do you know the name of it? Love to be added x

If you are local to Kent/medway PM me xx

Not counting relationships you have with women as cheating is homophobic; it clearly belittles WLW relationships as 'less serious' than heterosexual ones.

I'm a married bisexual woman who is not against non-monogomy. You are too turned on by the idea of sex with women that you aren't questioning why your husband is OK with you sleeping with women outside of the marriage, but isn't OK with you doing the same with men. As a pp suggested: it either turns him on, or he doesn't view homosexual relationships as as valid as heterosexual ones. Either way, his motive can't be great.

Hello I’m also similar in Kent message me :)

Hey, did you manage to meet anyone locally?