To contact the school on Monday about comments on social media

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My eldest DD helped out at a sixth form open evening last week, where prospective sixth formers from the same and other schools were invited to attend a presentation from the headteacher and head of sixth form in the school hall, followed by circulation around the different subject areas to get a taste of what activities are on offer in sixth form lessons.
My DD along with about 25 others was a subject ambassador, in that she helped set up and then demonstrate some activities. She also additionally acted as a tour guide to help direct people around the school.
Either later the same evening or the following day, several photos of the event were posted on Facebook by the school, including some of the subject staff and also a selection of the students who helped out. My DD was one of the students pictured.
Over the last couple of days many people have commented on the event and the students, many being complimentary about the event and how helpful the students were. However there appears to be a number of negative comments appearing about my DD and her appearance in particular, which she is obviously upset about and I'm not sure how to go about stopping it.
Do I contact the school to ask them to remove the article/photos; I don't know how to stop the comments.

She doesn't use Facebook, I don't think any of her friends do tbh, it's too old fashioned for them. They all use Instagram and Snapchat, etc.
She is aware, she was told by some of her friends that the comments had appeared and then told me

Agree, someone responsible for safeguarding -usually safeguarding lead- is likely to pick up the email at the weekend. This person should be named on the school website.

good luck op. Horrid thing to happen. People are awful.

also like the screenshot idea so culprits are known in case comments are deleted.

Try messaging the school's FB account as hopefully someone will be monitoring that over the weekend.

ah I see. Is she bothered?

i would email the school tonight and mark urgent.

and fb message the administrator of the post to ask that comments deleted

and if you so wish and my daughter was ok with it - I would comment and say “you are being offensive about my daughter. Stop”

It would appear that she is the only one yes, and I don't know why because she hasn't been targeted before as far as I'm aware.
She has her tie and top button undone and her skirt is pretty short, but it's no different to some of the other girls.

Agree with others - someone may be checking their emails.

I would email head@Schoolname, admin@school name (these email addresses should be on the school website). Also, as PP have said, you should know they safeguarding lead's name - and therefore email address - email them too.

People are twats!

She's a bit upset yes. Firstly about the comments themselves and why she's been targeted, and also whether I'm annoyed with her

some people are just downright nasty!! if it is parents of prospective students then they really should know better than to be bullying online!!

Why on earth would she worry that you’re annoyed with her!! About what?!

This is shit op. I spent the best part of a year in a similar situation with one of my dds.

It was the school FB page and an event that took place. The pictures went up the beginning of the week where the page was monitored but that weekend every scumb bag was posting awful shit about my dd.

The page wasn't monitored so there were so many comments made before it was taken down. Plus people had shared it so that part we couldn't stop.

I wanted to comment on the postings but had to stop myself, no point lowering myself to their standards. I messaged the FB page, sent an email to the school and went down to the school that Monday morning.

Unfortunately many of the posts were made by fake accounts and those who were stupid enough to use their own account were pulled up on it, what amazed me was, these kids thought nothing of it, they thought they were being funny, they didn't see the damage they did to my dd, and to top it all off their parents didn't give a shit either ! One mother actually said in a meeting that this is social media era and this is what happens and for dd to toughen up.

My poor dd ended up with an eating disorder after this. There are many people who should never be allowed to use social media, there should be a test before being allowed, some people are just viscous and nasty pieces of work .

If she’s “a bit upset” then hopefully she’ll take this as a lesson to wear her uniform correctly.

Other students doing the same doesn’t make it okay.

You are absolutely right.

Nice victim blaming there, @FestiveSandman

Why do some people the need to do be horrible like this? Sorry your daughter has had to experience what should be applauded, not bullying. Awful and yes ask for photo yo be removed but it's so sad you have to. Xx

This is the downside of social media. I rack my brains to think of an upside. That's why I have never used it or ever will.

Presumably if the school had a problem with either aspect of how OP's DD is wearing her uniform @FestiveSandman then they would have said something to her?

It's not for other adults to police school uniform policies, particularly in the case of an individual teenager. If you don't agree with them, go to a different school.

I'd report the post to Facebook and get it taken down tbh

I agree with this

Email the safeguarding team at school. There should be details of how to get into touch through the their website. Also, does your daughter have any way of contacting the school safeguarding team. I ask because at my school the students are given a phone number to text anonymously about any concerns. I can't recall the name of it but each school has its own phone number. Ours is not mentioned on the school website.

how utterly vile. The offensive comments should be taken down, the school need to investigate the originators, and they should be expelled, in practice this might not happen but it theoretically could - and has happened when similar was posted about a teacher in my school

Can you report the comments to Facebook OP? On a browser if you highlight the comment and then click it comes with an option to report. Report every single one and hopefully that may address some of them as it's probably a pile on unfortunately.

And of course report to school and tell them they should ensure they turn off comments on posts to social media in future. People are just horrid

Obviously we don’t know exactly what was said but if it’s just a few comments about her tie/button being undone or skirt length I’d let it go. If it was comments on her face or body I could understand but it all sounds rather petty?

Maybe you or your kids will be shamed for your appearance on social media. I'm sure you'd be happy with that too if that's the sort of person you are.

@FestiveSandman
She's a bit upset yes. Firstly about the comments themselves and why she's been targeted, and also whether I'm annoyed with her

If she’s “a bit upset” then hopefully she’ll take this as a lesson to wear her uniform correctly.

Other students doing the same doesn’t make it ok.

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She's got her top button undone and her skirt 'is a bit short' at a school event, people (adults)!are criticising a schoolgirl online, for photos she did not post, and your response is that she should adjust her attire?

Jeez. Have a word with yourself.

Your dd would have been considered a hero to have got a photo of herself in scruffy school uniform on the school’s website in my day!

Are the comments directly criticising your dd or are they expressing surprise that a school is posting pictures of students with their ties undone and skirts that are too short? The former is obviously not acceptable, but the latter would be understandable.