To have a sulk over this comment in bold

[dreambream]

DH: I think we need to decommission the babygrow DC is wearing. It's too tight around the legs.
Me: you shouldn't have put it on her if you felt it was that tight
DH: you could have taken it off her too
Me: I didn't put it on her
DH: it was tight on the legs, you could see there was no give
Me now feeling irritable: if I had seen it I would have taken it off, I wasn't paying attention. I guess this is how we learn as parents. Next time you feel like it's too tight, just don't put it on her, you don't need to tell me.
DH: you didn't need to give me all that commentary, you could have just said 'fine'
Me: Fine.

Perhaps it's immature of me, and I need to learn how to deal with my irritation better. But I haven't spoken to DH since and he's now downstairs building some flat pack furniture. He asked if I was annoyed I said no and that I was going to bed. DH is the King of avoidance so not a chance he will ask again. And I shall sit here and stew and think about how much of a knobby comment he made.

oh dear, why the constant need for drama.

It has nothing to do with mental load 🙄, he said WE, the way any normal parent (with or without penis) would say to mean "whoever is changing that babygrow needs to get rid of, after HE put it on.

If you translate the WE as "you are solely responsible for", it's just you I am afraid.

Hang on....

Instead of saying the babygrow is too small now so he's thrown it away/charity shopped it, he tells you to deal with it but in a roundabout way? Does he normally expect you to deal with things that he has observed?

I'm sorry everything sucks today. Can you talk to DH about what has actually sucked? Failing that can you make up and get the cuddle that you probably need?

The person that said babies bring out the best in noone nailed it.

Course it sounds like 'a palaver about nothing' when it's written down. But I don't believe for a second that 90% of the people who've read your OP haven't wasted some of their life being upset about something small or petty, especially when knackered!

Hope tomorrow gets better.

DH: I think we need to decommission the babygrow DC is wearing. It's too tight around the legs.

A perfectly normal, conversational observation.

Me: you shouldn't have put it on her if you felt it was that tight

Sorry, what? Were you looking for a fight or something?

Seriously, this is all on you.

I really appreciated that
Also amused by the number of people annoyed at the word "decommission". Bahaha

that's your own translation.

Even I use the "WE NEED" to , and it means "one of us needs".

Are people so petty and arguing trying to score points about the most inane little details? it must be exhausting.

👆this..........saved me saying the same😂

No, to be fair he deals with loads of things and doesn't even mention it. He is a good egg really.

I'm pretty sure our toilet seat comes loose and goes wonky because I'm monstrously heavy right now. But he fixes it every. single. day. and never mentions it.

I was going to post saying why does everyone these days write 'babygrow' when in fact it's 'Babygro' (a trade mark)? but I thought I'd better do my homework first, and you know what? Babygrow is a normal proper word in the UK. So I've learned that since my baby brother had his Babygros. Also the Babygro trademark isn't registered here.

Personally I feel the father might have thought 'it's a little tight, but baby needs to be dressed for now, we probably should get another one, but it won't cripple her overnight'. Didn't exactly say that, and wife went off the deep end. Both a bit tired maybe?

Thank you, your comment is very kind.

Even I use the "WE NEED" to , and it means "one of us needs".

Yep. I have no idea why people are turning that perfectly innocuous observation into him meaning that OP had to do it.

Fair enough. I’m obviously projecting because when DH uses “we need to” he doesn’t ever do the thing himself. Therefore from him it does mean “you need to”.

But the feet are so gosh darn cute

Yeah, you attacked him first. He does have a point.

“yeah you’re right it is looking a bit small, just throw it away tomorrow”

would have saved all the drama over nothing

Are you both about 15? So much snipy drama. Parenting is about being a team, not having a go at each other over literally nothing.

‘Don’t let the sun go down on your anger, because the devil will find the resentment in your heart and live there’.

anyone who could choose those feet can be the better person, OP 🍮🥰. Go and give him a hug, I bet you get one back.

Perhaps he felt it would be inappropriate for him to 'decommission' the baby grow without getting your permission discussing it with you first.
He sounds lovely and you sound very unreasonable. Stop sulking.

You're both tired, and petty things seem big when you're tired. Throw it away when you next change her clothes. She'd be making a fuss if she was uncomfortable, so no harm done.

*I haven't spoken to DH since

He asked if I was annoyed I said no and that I was going to bed.

DH is the King of avoidance*

Seriously, read this back, op

Your DHs comment was a normal conversation, your comment back to him was dicky and childish. God what a whole lot of nonsense.

I love the saying 'decommission' the baby grow! That would have made me laugh, If he's anything like my DH, he isn't saying it to be jumped up, it's just a way of talking about everyday inane boring shit by pretending it's something much more important like a nuclear power plant.. it's just a way to lighten the mood.. or NOT as the case may be!

In fairness OP, you took that conversation into blame straight away, so IMO you deserved that remark at the end, but I do sympathise, me and DH never argued or got pissy with each other before we had a child, now he does a similar thing to this sometimes, but there are certain things that he just has no clue whether they are acceptable or not and he either doesn't notice or looks to me for guidance.. when in my mind it's blimmin obvious surely? I'm wary though that perhaps it stems from fear of doing the wrong thing? And that could be my fault for being so decisive about things, where DH is as laid back as they come.

This.

and have a cup of Horlicks and go to bed…😴

Get the size she needs now!

Oh I would totally say decommission the baby grow.

It’s a lighthearted turn of phrase. Not just me showing off my big words.

Jesus wept 🤦🏻‍♀️