To be put off by date eating pub leftovers

[Runki]

I have never posted on here before so please be gentle! 😉 I just wanted some honest opinions from people. I've been seeing a man for a number of months. We went out yesterday to a pub for something to eat, at lunchtime. When we got there, the table next to us hadn't been cleared yet and there was quite a bit of food left on plates. I asked him what he wanted to eat for lunch, and he said he would just eat some leftover toast and sausages from the uncleared table. I thought he was joking and laughed. But he actually meant it. He took two pieces of left over, cold toast and some sausages and proceeded to eat them, with no plate. I said I would buy him lunch and he didn't need to eat leftovers! He said he couldn't stand wasted food. I ordered my own lunch and ate it, alone, as he had already gobbled up the leftovers from the people who had left. Would this put you off someone? Or should I more be accommodating?! In all honesty, it made me feel very uncomfortable and I found it very unattractive. How would this make you feel, can I ask? Look forward to hearing what people think. For context, he has never done this before, but has alluded to wanting to do it when we've been to other places. I asked him yesterday if he was worried that someone's saliva might be on the leftover food, but he said he couldn't care less.

I used to work in a cinema and he wouldn't have been doing that if he knew what kind of filth people make a habit of leaving on the floors of the hall piss, shit, cum, vomit, used condoms, blood etc. It gets picked up but not properly cleaned, we didn't have the time just a bit of spray to deodorise was what management said.

Moral of the story never eat stuff off the cinema floor or what looks like sweets, pop corn and so on left behind. In fact give cinema food a miss altogether it tends to be very unhygienic.

Blimey @AllHopeandRainbows I'm not surprised people are doubting you on this thread what a crazy thing to have done.
I do believe you though - no one would make up a thread about this.
It sounds like you're not going to see him again - Good for you. Thank goodness he showed you his true behaviour early on.
If he does this in public can you imagine what he gets up to in private.... EEWWWW!!

All I can think about are the array of viruses he’s leaving himself open to… Hepatitis A, B, C for a start. Bleurgh!

Omg........horrendous. run away as fast as you can

I'm with him on food waste. However, there's a time and a place for eating up leftovers. A public place, leftovers from other people's plates with or without the stranger factor, out on a hot date with a lovely person. Totally screams no!! Where are his social skills? He sounds a bit of a fruit loop if he thinks this behaviour is ok.

Unless someone was homeless or really poor, I would never like this unfortunately.

This is what I expect a date with financial wizard Martin Lewis would be like, either that or he'd split the bill in half down to the last penny and then produce coupons for his half.

I thought was going to be about eating your leftover meal but a stranger's is totally gross. I'd be ok if took sausages to give to their dog than waste but people are usually more conscious about making a good impression on a first date so wouldn't even do that.

I'd be worried they are tight and lack of concern about hygiene. Also would worry what other gross things they may do to avoid waste like bin raiding or eating out if date stuff.

Scone pinching PP doesn't sound so bad as tend to serve afternoon teas on a stand or platter so more like a buffet & at least they saw the people eating.

That doesn't surprise me one bit! Given the way he was at the time, even if he'd been told all that he'd probably still have eaten stuff off the floor out of bravado.

Actually that makes me want to heave just reading about it. I think I would have had to have got up and left the pub. It's really grim.

That would give me the ick. Leftovers at home is not a problem but eating leftovers in a public place a big no for me.

There’s quite a difference, though, between food being touched by someone who is preparing and serving food for others as part of their job (and who has been trained in basic food hygiene) and food being touched by someone who has actually been eating it themselves.

I’ve worked in pubs and restaurants and yes, of course I’ve had to touch your food and cutlery in order to prep and serve your meal. But I’d have washed my hands multiple times during my shift, I’d have been bollocked if anyone had seen me sneeze or pick my nose near food, I’d have only been touching the cutlery by the handle, and at no point have I touched your food with cutlery that’s been in my mouth. When it comes to contact with the food, serving a meal for someone really isn’t the same as sitting there and eating half of it.

Yes, you don’t know whether kitchen staff are following hygiene rules and yes, you might get served a sausage that had been dropped on the kitchen floor. I’ve seen things like that happen, occasionally. That is a risk you take. But food that has been on someone else’s plate will definitely be a lot more spitty and grubby than anything that’s just been brought out of the kitchen, and with all my hospitality experience, I personally would definitely not put a stranger’s leftovers anywhere near my mouth.

I don’t think that’s bourgeois. I think it’s an informed decision.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 brilliant! me too

Oh no! Yuk

Sorry haven't RTFT but, what, I can honestly say I would not see him again. I gagged a bit when you said it.

I initially thought you were going to say he brought home his left overs when I read the title which would be normal

10HailMarys thank you for replying to me! Yes, I do see what you mean, but I think that the disgust on this thread is not really (just) a reaction to the increased probability of germs. I mean, if the plate was brought out by someone who accidentally put their finger on the sausages etc, or even coughed as they put it down, then that would increase the risk a similar amount. And I think that if a date proceeded to ate it saying they weren't worried we wouldn't all be saying that he was utterly revolting...

That is absolutely minging.

My BIL does this. He also purposely sits at a table that needs clearing to then accuse the waitress of removing 'his' food that he hadn't finished eating. This has earned him many a free freshly cooked meal and a ton of apologies from the waitress/manager. He thinks it's amazing,my sister smiles and indulges him. We refuse to go anywhere with them.

Can't be real!!! Vile, grim, tight...that's actually gross....

My only thought was maybe he doesn't want to carry on going on dates with you and this was the bizarre way he found to say it😅

I agree entirely @LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

Sorry but major ick. I find it uncomfortable when out having a meal my 76 year old dad will fish left overs on anyone's plates. Usually the kids but he's done it with friends if they haven't finished all their chips etc.. but that's family or friends he's know for 30+ years who usually just offer him the left overs now! 😂

If he hasn't done it before in front of you then he knows it's questionable.

Haha so true!!

Yes, exactly. Saying 'But the staff have touched the food/cutlery/plates anyway' isn't really relevant here. It's a bit like saying that it's fine to drink from a stranger's glass because the barman touched your glass when he was pouring your drink. Yes, he touched the sides of your glass with his hands. He did not, however, put the rim of the glass in his dribbly gob. The chef has sliced your meat with a knife that he has held by the handle. He generally hasn't pushed it round his plate for ten minutes with a fork that's been in his mouth.

If 'not eating random food you find lying around in public places' is the benchmark for 'bourgeois' now, I really don't know what the fuck the world is coming to

Has he no shame?