I got angry with nursery staff today

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My DD wasn't allowed to come into nursery today because she's on antibiotics and it hadn't been 48 hours since she started the course - although she has actually been on antibiotics since Wednesday..

In any case, they have a rule which states that even though she's been on antibiotics since Wednesday, because they she was put on a different one on Saturday- that's what counts and it's therefore counted as if she only started Saturday - hence Monday morning makes it less that 48 hours.

Official websites suggest you need to stay off work / school for 24 hours after starting antibiotics.

In any case, I lost my cool a bit. No shouting by any means but I showed that I was less than impressed. I said something like ' it's just not good enough and a ridiculous rule '.

I've never done anything like that before with nursery as I am usually very very nice/ complaint with them, as they look after my precious baby. I was feeling super stressed as I missed a lot of work last week due to the illness and I'm really falling behind and had a lot of important meetings today, so really needed DD in nursery.

Would you apologise or just ignore ?

erm that’s not a rule it’s made up. However it depends why they are taking antibiotics.

Hope you have learned to just lie! No one cares anyway. If you told hhe gull truth about all our kids illnesses, we would never be at work.
Friends daughter fainted in school and they wanted her to go home and stay off for 24 hours "in case she is unwell". Child stayed at school and was fine.

Ignore it will be forgotten. I hated the stupid rules when payment is made upfront and they still have my £100 for the days they’re not letting her go in.

I never said anything to the girls looking after my daughter, they were great. But tbh I couldn’t stand the manager and made a couple of comments to her.

I don't think you were unreasonable to be frustrated re your childcare.
I am an older parent and used childminders mostly for my kids. They were - with 1 exception - all wonderful and understood that, unless your child was seriously unwell, you needed to get to work. They gave antibiotics and Calpol and quiet activities and generally cared for your child in place of you, around their other charges. In many cases they became family friends.
I am so sorry that the nearest many younger parents get to this is if they have money to hire or share a nanny. I know one of my adult children had to speak to his child's nursery about how many days his child was being excluded on health grounds which were often spurious. They rethought their hard-line policies and it was all worked out.

Apologise.
its because of allergic reaction to antibiotics, and yes it does start again if she started new antibiotics. I strongly suspect this info will be in a policy that you have at worst been given to read, at best have signed to say you’ve Read it.
you’re in the wrong. Completely.

Nhs guidance is that children can attend settings with hand foot and mouth…it is insanely contagious and can be very dangerous to young. Children and pregnant women. It’s highly unusual for settings to actually allow children in with hand foot and mouth. Regardless of what the nhs say. This is the same. It is up to the setting what stipulation they put on things. If you disagree, go elsewhere.

I think nearly all non serious conflict between nursery and parents is the sickness policies. Parents need children in so they can work, staff are trying to stop the spread of infections. There is a risk that a room or setting could close for everyone if staff catch it and they can't meet ratios.

We haven't got that particular policy about antibiotics, except that the child must have started them (ie we won't give the first dose) before attending and be otherwise well in themselves. I can see why you found that frustrating.

If parents stopped bringing in their ill children when they clearly need to be recovering at home, there would be no need for policies. It's pure selfishness and shows no consideration for their own child or the other children and staff in the nursery. But, hey - as long as you can dump and run, screw everyone else!

You're the kind of parent every other parent hates! The rules are there to stop other children and staff becoming unwell too!

Scarlet fever?

Well done for apologising

If she started a new course of antibiotics she’s obviously still sick and should be kept home till they have a chance to work.

That’s not at all “obvious”.

She’s been recuperating for days already, the change in antibiotics may not be related to them being ineffective against the illness and even if they were she’d been on the new ones for more than the recommended 24 hours before being turned away from nursery. Not to mention, bacterial illnesses come in many forms, not all of which require rest at home.