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What does "if not before" mean to you?

38 replies

Kayte198999 · 04/11/2023 16:42

For example, if I said "I will send the report over on Wednesday, if not before"

YABU - I won't send it before Wednesday
YANBU - I might send it before Wednesday

For me, it's "if I don't send it before Wednesday then I'll send it on Wednesday" (YANBU) but I'm pretty sure my colleagues think it means that I'm suggesting they won't accept the report before Wednesday (therefore YABU). I just don't want to rush through the bloody report 😆

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thaisweetchill · 04/11/2023 16:42

I might send it before Wednesday

kidsanddogs101 · 04/11/2023 16:43

If not Wednesday, it'll be sent before then.

ploob · 04/11/2023 16:44

Wednesdays the latest I'll send it

Icepop79 · 04/11/2023 16:44

“Wednesday is the latest day on which I will send the report”

ErrolTheDragon · 04/11/2023 16:45

YANBU, it obviously means you'll send it on or before Wednesday.

sollenwir · 04/11/2023 16:45

You'll definitely receive it by Wednesday, but possibly before that.

Booklover23 · 04/11/2023 16:45

It’s the same as when you say to someone “I’ll see you at the Christmas party, if not, before”

You will definitely see them at the Christmas party, but might see them before that

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 04/11/2023 16:45

"Don't nag me about this until Wednesday, please "

CantFindTheBeat · 04/11/2023 16:46

Wednesday at the latest (And probably will be Wednesday, but I'm an optimist)!

SweetBirdsong · 04/11/2023 16:46

'It will be Wednesday at the latest, but may be before Wednesday.'

CaineRaine · 04/11/2023 16:47

Wednesday is the date I’ll send the report unless it’s ready to go earlier than that

CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 04/11/2023 16:47

It won't be later than Wednesday.

Catandsquirrel · 04/11/2023 16:48

'Weds is the latest you will get the report so I don't want any reminders until then, please. If I can get it out of the way before, I will, so no need to ask'.

Yourebeingtooloud · 04/11/2023 16:50

You’ll get it no later than Wednesday.

Kayte198999 · 04/11/2023 16:55

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 04/11/2023 16:45

"Don't nag me about this until Wednesday, please "

Exactly this 😂😂

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MyDogSmellsTerrible · 04/11/2023 16:56

I'll send it to you on Wednesday. And there's a chance it will be before then.

CSIblonde · 04/11/2023 16:56

You will get it Wed at the latest. But I hate vagueness like that because it leads to miscommunication so often. Anywhere I've worked I would be expected to give the day they'll get it & stick to it, not stay statements like this. I actually had someone complain that sending him a report early was not on. Messed up his routine apparently.

Kayte198999 · 04/11/2023 16:57

Booklover23 · 04/11/2023 16:45

It’s the same as when you say to someone “I’ll see you at the Christmas party, if not, before”

You will definitely see them at the Christmas party, but might see them before that

Exactly, I don't see how someone could take that to mean I definitely won't see them before the Christmas party

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TravellingT · 04/11/2023 16:59

I will try to send it before Wednesday, but if I can't, I'll send it on Wednesday.

Could also be said as "I'll send it to you by wednesday" or "You'll have it by Wednesday at the latest"

Ididivfama · 04/11/2023 17:01

I know you really want it asap so I’m going to pretend there’s a chance I’ll get it to you before Wednesday. But then I’ll realise I can do it Wednesday and send it then at 16:59.

BooBooBaloo · 04/11/2023 17:08

Wednesday is the latest I'll send it over

RandomUsernameHere · 04/11/2023 17:17

It means they will send it on Wednesday at the latest

MolkosTeenageAngst · 04/11/2023 17:22

“I will send it on Wednesday, unless I get a chance to send it sooner.”

Milkand2sugarsplease · 04/11/2023 17:30

Don't bother asking me about this until Thursday because I have until end of play Weds to get it to you 😂

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 04/11/2023 17:32

It may be on said day but will likely be sooner