For context , DS has autism, it makes his life harder in some ways but also he’s bloody Brilliant aswell. His special struggle is social stuff , dealing with people and social constructs, his special gift is music. So he can sometimes be awkward as hell and also he’s lovely to be around when he’s doing his thing. There’s a whole grey area there too when he’s sort of the stressed out human on the peripherals of something he wants to be part of but doesn’t really get , and he works really hard at this stuff.
anyway, let’s call her a cousin, seems to really hate him. I can’t work out why , he’s so young he’s not old enough to have actually offended her. But everytime he does something, plays a bit of music, someone comments on his work ( they might have just been at his school concert) she absolutely tears him to pieces. Says things like, he shouldn’t be on stage, his performance was poor etc. it’s getting hard to manage because I wouldn’t dream of calling her out because she’s really young aswell. But so’s he, he’s a baby and this is what he does. I don’t want him to take her comments on board. Any advice?