Wider family is divided between those who don't want to buy for adults this year, and those who want to keep buying for everyone (in total ten adults and 5 kids).
Those who don't want to have various reasons - they get stressed out buying presents/don't like receiving/there is literally nothing they want/are trying to save money/have been having a clear out so don't want more stuff/don't like 'tat' or just don't see the point of 'I'll buy you a bottle of wine you don't really want or need and then you'll give me a box of chocolates I'm not particularly keen on and could just buy myself." One person who is single says it's not fair they are expected to buy for e.g. a couple and 2 kids yet only ever get 1 present (of the same amount as they'd spent per person rather than for all 4) back.
The non-buyers are happy to continue buying for children.
Those who want to keep buying think it's tight not to when everyone in the family can technically afford to, and think gift exchange is a key part of Christmas and it would be miserable without it and would feel like just a random day with nothing special to distinguish it from any other. They say they'd feel embarrassed if someone asked them what they are getting their brother for Christmas and they answer 'nothing.' They are annoyed that they've suggested options like limiting presents to a tenner each but the non-buyers don't want to do that either (on the basis you can't get anything decent for that much so it's just more tat, and still ends up as £100 they'd rather save/spend on something else).
Last year we tried a secret santa with £100 budget which some people found an ok compromise but others disliked - non-buyers because it didn't solve any of the reasons they don't like buying, buyers because they still want to buy for everyone!
Anyone else facing the same issue and have any magical compromises? It's all getting a bit arsey on the family whatsapp group now and not exactly spreading Christmas cheer!