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To counterfeit my daughters Christmas presents?

259 replies

Wazzitnow · 24/10/2023 21:21

OK, so she's into some obscure person ATM. Shes autistic and her people of interest changes bi yearly.

Right now it's this person who has a clothing range that is only available in the USA and is crazy expensive. $100 for a hoodie "$40 for a Tshirt type thing.

She's never seen his merch in real life and it's really cheap iron on kind of stuff.

And his inside label tag is very simple.

I have a printing machine and could very easily forge the items and make the label for inside the collar too.

I don't want to spend that much money on some obscure Tshirt with 1 word on just for the label.

But in true autistic teen style this is all she wants.

I'd get charged import fees too.

It's unlikely she would ever know because ei doubt she will ever come across a real piece of merch from him

And the style he has along with the label he has means it would be super easy to make and there would really be no way for her to know.

I wouldn't be selling them obviously. Just a few items, couple of Tshirts and a hoodie for her.

Would be around £35 quid instead of £200+!

And I know she won't be into him by summer either which makes me even more reluctant.

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Revelschocolates · 24/10/2023 21:22

Absolutely do it.

BeetyAxe · 24/10/2023 21:23

Do it, for all the reasons you’ve stated. Just make sure you cover your tracks so she really thinks it’s real.

ProvisionsOnTheDock · 24/10/2023 21:25

Go for it!

Unicorn2022 · 24/10/2023 21:26

I wouldn't hesitate to do it

CrapBucket · 24/10/2023 21:27

I would totally do this

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/10/2023 21:28

You're not selling it or buying fakes from a sweatshop? Knock yourself out.

ThingsBeingVarious · 24/10/2023 21:31

No, you shouldn't rip off somebody else's work. I design and make stuff that sells online and I'm so sick of this shit.

BombaySamphire · 24/10/2023 21:32

Do it, op.

strawberryjeans · 24/10/2023 21:32

1000% and tell her when she’s older! Lol

Mariposista · 24/10/2023 21:41

Do it. Or just say no.

ColouringPencils · 24/10/2023 21:43

I am not sure. If it's the one thing she wants and it is the price you would spend on her overall present, I would get the real thing. If it's too expensive, I would explain it is too much. I don't like the idea of lying or tricking her, and if she finds out she might feel stupid/cheated, which would be worse than just not getting her it in the first place.

Wazzitnow · 24/10/2023 21:46

Imagine a plain white Tshirt with the word 'banana' on it of something.

In a completely normal font.

I'm not taking an image someone has created and putting on a Tshirt or taking any branding logos. It's literally just words in plain lettering.

BANANA

I wouldn't even have to download a special font or anything it's just standard online writing

And the label is a coloured label with a word on, again not a name, just a word.

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Wazzitnow · 24/10/2023 21:48

ColouringPencils · 24/10/2023 21:43

I am not sure. If it's the one thing she wants and it is the price you would spend on her overall present, I would get the real thing. If it's too expensive, I would explain it is too much. I don't like the idea of lying or tricking her, and if she finds out she might feel stupid/cheated, which would be worse than just not getting her it in the first place.

She wants other things as well though. Like Nike trainers and art stuff.

I'd much rather fake these and get her the other stuff too.

If I get her what she wants she's going to open 3 presents Christmas morning and just have these weird Tshirts to show for Christmas.

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FawnFrenchieMum · 24/10/2023 21:51

I definitely would! In fact I did, although younger, DS decided days before his birthday (also ASD but didn’t know at the time, explains so much now!) that he wanted some ‘merch’ similar to what you describe. There was no way of getting it in time. Someone we know with a printing business did it for us (this was before so many people had these home machines). He had no idea and was elated with his gifts.

MumofSpud · 24/10/2023 21:52

I have a feeling my DD is into the same thing!

If I had the ability I would do the same as your idea!

Needmorelego · 24/10/2023 21:56

My daughter is also autistic (obviously that in no way means she is similar to your daughter) but she has wanted a few obscure and expensive things from America too.
I simply told her that we couldn't get them because they were in America and the company that sells wouldn't send them here.
She accepted that.

ColouringPencils · 24/10/2023 21:57

How old is she?

lamalamalamasquirrel · 24/10/2023 22:00

No. I think that's really deceitful. Just because she is autistic doesn't mean she HAS to get what she's asked for.

lamalamalamasquirrel · 24/10/2023 22:01

Wazzitnow · 24/10/2023 21:48

She wants other things as well though. Like Nike trainers and art stuff.

I'd much rather fake these and get her the other stuff too.

If I get her what she wants she's going to open 3 presents Christmas morning and just have these weird Tshirts to show for Christmas.

The get her the trainers and the art stuff - no t-shirt. Sorted

Unicorn2022 · 24/10/2023 22:02

This is exactly the situation I had a few years ago with DD1 and she was absolutely desperate to get a teeshirt and hoodie from an influencer (I think she was called Tanya Bregar) for Christmas. I bit the bullet and ordered it but the cost was extortionate, then they charged import fees and then the post office also charged fees because they hadn't paid the correct delivery. I ended up paying hundreds for the shittest teeshirt and hoodie with the word "peachy" on the front, not even in an unusual font. DD was very happy but I would never do it again.

DahliaJ · 24/10/2023 22:04

No I wouldn't.

Start the message now about money or number of items or whatever might help her adapt to a reasonable expectation, otherwise what happens next year, or the year after?

Atomickittyxx · 24/10/2023 22:04

I'd do it, she gets what's she's asked for plus other bits she's happy and you don't break the bank win win 😉.

Wazzitnow · 24/10/2023 22:05

lamalamalamasquirrel · 24/10/2023 22:00

No. I think that's really deceitful. Just because she is autistic doesn't mean she HAS to get what she's asked for.

Where did I say it does?

She doesn't HAVE to get anything but if I can make an exact replica whilst she's at school that saves me hundreds of pounds and makes her happy then I'm tempted.

In the same way she saw some fancy cake on her birthday that was £150 from a local bakery and asked for it.

I made it myself for a fraction and she never knew.

I can't say they won't post here. She's old enough to know they do 😂

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MadameCamembert · 24/10/2023 22:08

Personally no, I don’t think it’s fair. Would you do it if your daughter didn’t have autism and quickly revolving interests? I’d be inclined to buy her half of a what she has requested, from the legitimate source, and then perhaps other things. Obviously do whatever you works for you but it doesn’t sit right with me!

TheFormidableMrsC · 24/10/2023 22:10

Definitely do it! My friend does this too. My (also autistic) DS was obsessed with a Tiktoker last year whose merch was absolutely outrageously expensive and they didn't bother to reply when I emailed a query so was reluctant to buy. My friend made him a whole set for a fraction and you'd never have known (he's never guessed). He's no longer obsessed and I wasn't left with a bill for hundreds of pounds. Go for it.

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