What is this new form of slobdom?

[Theokaycokey]

Staying at a seaside resort in the UK. Large Hotel has a massive open atrium that is overlooked by hotel rooms and anyone walking along the promenade. The hotel restaurant is located smack bang in the middle of the atrium and is open to the reception area. I come down to breakfast this morning and a significant number of guests are sat in their pyjamas having their breakfast! Different families, all scattered around the restaurant or queuing at the breakfast buffet in their nightwear and fluffy slippers. This is the first time that I have come across this. Is it a relatively recent phenomenon?

Or you took “salad spinner” too literally. We shall never know! 😀

But seriously, was there really any danger of anyone taking “shaking the lettuce” literally in a message that ALREADY included the term “clam jousting”? You know, we didn’t all inherit Great Aunt Edna’s medieval shellfish armory either. Harrumph.

I judge big time.

I was treated to a couple of nights at Gleneagles and a couple were in their slippers at breakfast. Gross. It’s so smart there, why would you do that?!

Who cares what people wear to weddings and funerals? So long as their behaviour is appropriate it doesn’t matter what they look like.

Your examples of g-strings etc aren’t relevant- that’s an issue of showing private body parts, not showing sleep wear.

who gets to decide what is ‘neat and appropriate’? I think football shirts look utterly grim and are only appropriate if you are actually playing football, but I don’t think that entitles me to not have to see them at breakfast. I don’t think any clothing in bright colours or with a print looks ‘neat’, but again it’s none of my business if every woman in the hotel is dressed like a cbbies presenter at breakfast.

I live in Brighton, & have only very occasionally seen people out about in their PJ’s 😆 it’s not the norm, promise!

I would love to say live and let live but I do give people a bit of a side eye when they’re bopping round town in their pjs. Just weird init?

Who mentioned anything about women?

I think the only grim thing is the misogynstic language on this thread to be honest, talking about womens vaginas smelling of fish and finding it hilarious. Bored school kid behaviour.

I am from a little town which doesn't have the best reputation. Thankfully I escaped and went to Uni but when I pop back frequently to see family, people wandering around Asda in PJs and monster slippers of a weekend afternoon is a fairly common sight.

I suppose to be fair, if you're having a PJ day and need a wine top up, then it's a bit of a drag to get dressed only to go to shop, then home and get back in PJs.

I've never done it and wouldn't do it at a hotel either but some dark Neanderthal part of my brain wishes that I could.

I wasnt being misogynistic with fanny wafts. I could just have easily said cock gusts. Bumjuices, as we all know, are gender neutral.

I understand that someone else's attire doesn't affect me and isn't any of my business

In theory I agree with this, but in practice I reserve the right to laugh my ass off at anyone older than a toddler shuffling around in public in their PJ's and fluffy slippers😂

What should we call this fashion trend? Care Home Chic? Convalescent Casual?

C'mon people, go the extra mile and pull on a pair of sweatpants🙄

dss/cooncil-emergency accomodation.

I agree
I find talk of fanny wafts and last night's loads and bumjuice rather grim and childish tbh

Last night's load means they had sex the night before and haven't showered since meaning there's still semen inside them

I still have questions.
Why is it up their arse as a default?
How is having a shower going to scoosh out the inside of your arse? (or fanjo either, you really shouldn't be doing that)

That made me LOL

There is such a thing as the "social contract" and traditionally it has meant showing consideration for others through a neat and appropriate appearance, among other things. Garments worn for sleeping aren't generally considered appropriate for dining with strangers at a public restaurant.

Yes, but unless it is a posh/exclusive restaurant that has clearly-publicised 'standards' or rules, different people care vastly differently about how others dress in public.

Near where I live, there's an older lady who is never seen in public in anything other than full Victorian formal dress - like the people you used to see on Quality Street tins. She does look amazing but, for all I know, she quite possibly considers everybody else in the shops/high street who are wearing common everyday modern outfits as the height of slovenliness and 'too lazy to make an effort'. Then again, it's just as possible that she has her own style that she personally adores and fully accepts that other people are not her and they 'do them' just as she 'does her'.

As I said upthread, most people in a relaxed/informal public place really aren't that bothered by what strangers wear or do.

Would you like it if your wedding and funeral attendees showed up in PJs or speedos? If a parent greeted you and your offspring for a playdate wearing a G-string and mesh t-shirt? If your teen's prom date showed up in their underwear and a robe? After all, comfort is king, eh?

I already clearly pointed out the marked difference when somebody is being paid to do a job where they are serving you/others, as opposed to being at leisure.

Yes, a g-string and mesh t-shirt are extreme clothing choices for in public. A blouse/shirt and trousers/shorts that happen to have been designed for comfort and are thus commonly worn as nightwear are not.

When you say 'underwear and a robe', you do realise that a robe is basically a garment that covers the whole body and often used as a synonym for a dress or gown? Are you really asking if I would be shocked if a teenage (presumably) girl turned up for a date with my teenager wearing a wrap/other style of dress and (potentially/hopefully) unseen knickers underneath?!

I think the implication is the sort of people in PJs would be the kind to be in to anal?

And because in the shower you can... clean yourself more?

Bumjuice bumjuice bumjuice

(testing if it’s like Betelgeuse)

I quite happily wear my PJs to WFH and have been known to do the school run in them too (with a coat and proper shoes though, not slippers and a dressing gown). And no, I don't usually shower first and then get dressed in a new pair of pyjamas. When I was a student, I would also wear them to the supermarket but put jeans over the top. Standards.

Judge away.

I'm very ill/disabled but I wouldn't dream of leaving the house in pj's. And I'm hating pp using this to be nasty to other pp. Its uncalled for.

I think it's probably one of those men who don't know that women have a urethra, vagina and anus rather than a cloaca.

It Is ableist, you’re right.

We were having breakfast in a posh hotel in London, a mid twenties ish woman in the breakfast line in a oversized t shirt, became all too apparent that there was no underwear when she retrieved something after dropping it, it was so big at the neck they when she stood up it was under her boobs and tucked between her butt cheeks at the back. A waitress wrapped her in a tablecloth and a manager escorted her from the restaurant, the whole time she was shouting that “you Brits are prudes, don’t you know who I am” no one seemed to know or care who she was despite getting quite the show ……. compared to that pjs almost sound acceptable!
I was with my Grandma as I had taken her to Celebrate her 70th birthday and she said quite loudly “are they filming a Carry On film” which got quite a few laughs - had to look that up as I had no clue what she meant!

I'm very ill/disabled but I wouldn't dream of leaving the house in pj's. And I'm hating pp using this to be nasty to other pp. Its uncalled for.

How was PP nasty? You do realise that different disabilities affect different people in different ways?

Love this thread. Funniest in ages. Was just thinking Mumsnet doesn’t have the same quality of threads that it used to then I chanced upon this one. Absolutely hilarious - thanks OP - and everyone else 😂

I’ve got a bright pink tracksuit from M&S that gets worn about twice a year because it looks like pjs and I don’t want to be associated with the type of people who’d bring their unwashed nethers to breakfast.

I think it's probably one of those men who don't know that women have a urethra, vagina and anus rather than a cloaca.

This is definitely one of those threads that skates between funny informal cheekiness and plain OTT grim misogyny of the sort that reminds us that it's half-term in some areas.