What is this new form of slobdom?

[Theokaycokey]

Staying at a seaside resort in the UK. Large Hotel has a massive open atrium that is overlooked by hotel rooms and anyone walking along the promenade. The hotel restaurant is located smack bang in the middle of the atrium and is open to the reception area. I come down to breakfast this morning and a significant number of guests are sat in their pyjamas having their breakfast! Different families, all scattered around the restaurant or queuing at the breakfast buffet in their nightwear and fluffy slippers. This is the first time that I have come across this. Is it a relatively recent phenomenon?

Really don’t see the problem with it. If you don’t like it don’t look. I just don’t see how what someone else has chosen to wear affects someone else, sat at a different table, with different company, with absolutely zero social interaction. Bizarre x

I wonder how they'd feel if their airline pilot turned up in PJs, or the officiant at their wedding wore Daisy Dukes, or if their restaurant servers were in Speedos. Anything goes as long as it's comfortable, right?

All of those people are in a position of carrying out their clearly-defined paid employment. Can you really not see any difference between that and somebody at leisure, not serving/working for (or accountable to) anybody else?

No this is not ok. Definitely been worse since lockdown. It's not acceptable in my view.

Fair enough; but they've paid for a leisurely stay in a hotel - quite possibly a special, rare treat for them - and they obviously see the experience as very different from you. They've paid for their stay, just as you've paid for yours, and are entitled to enjoy it too. Assuming they're reasonably covered up, of course.

I can't get worked up about PJs in public. Lots of clothes are quite like PJs anyway - jersey joggers and a sweatshirt, loose trousers and t-shirt. I was in a Costa the other day and someone in there was in full PJ set and dressing gown - but she was fully covered up and clean and polite. It's much better than a lot of public behaviour.

All this about arse loads (what?) and encrustations and wandering hands etc - just because someone puts on proper clothes doesn't mean they've washed their hands, or their bum! Especially if the hotel breakfast is about to end and they've just rolled out of bed and thrown on last night's jeans.

What does that even mean?!

Ha! I don't know what happened there! I've just read it in Forest Gumps voice 😅

I am glad you posted. I wanted to post about this the other week when I saw a woman walking down the high street in the middle of the day in a dressing gown over pj’s and slippers. It looks so lazy.

If u see me well dressed in the morning it is because I've showered and got ready. I personally can't get out of bed do stuff like eat breakfast or whatever and theb shower, I feel out of sync. Just weird to me

Oh you'd hate me.

I drove two hours today in my (clean!) PJ's.

Packed the trousers I wanted right at the bottom of my bag and could not be arsed to drag it all out (but I'm also ill with a lovely bug, I wouldn't usually!)

👍😊

A large proportion of those people will not have showered before breakfast (may be intending to do so after breakfast; may not be planning on doing so that day at all) - and lots of them wearing 'normal' daywear will have pulled on yesterday's daywear.

If you've paid to stay in a hotel, you're probably centring your own leisure choices, and likely not bothered about other people's preferences for theirs.

Was it in a certain big Tesco in a town North of Bristol with the initials BS?

If it was Burnham on Sea, this is not surprising.

Either that or the teenage boys on half term are bored already.

If this bothers you avoid Scotland between May and August - it’s taps aff season and all bets are off!

I do agree though, it doesn’t take much to throw on some clothes before going out in public.

There is such a thing as the "social contract" and traditionally it has meant showing consideration for others through a neat and appropriate appearance, among other things. Garments worn for sleeping aren't generally considered appropriate for dining with strangers at a public restaurant.

Would you like it if your wedding and funeral attendees showed up in PJs or speedos? If a parent greeted you and your offspring for a playdate wearing a G-string and mesh t-shirt? If your teen's prom date showed up in their underwear and a robe? After all, comfort is king, eh?

Please don’t put ideas in people’s heads!

Extremely hard for a lot of ill and/or disabled people.

Why don’t you try and expand your mind a tiny bit and open your eyes to the rest of society- you might learn something.

I am glad you posted. I wanted to post about this the other week when I saw a woman walking down the high street in the middle of the day in a dressing gown over pj’s and slippers. It looks so lazy.

Following on from XenoBitch's very well-observed comment about Spoon Theory, you have absolutely no idea about her physical or mental ability or energy levels - or indeed anything else that might be going on in her life.

What you readily dismiss as 'looks so lazy' could well, to her, be coming from a position of great privilege that she wouldn't even dare to dream of.

Also pjs as outerwear / outdoor wear has a long history.

https://thevintagewomanmagazine.com/pajama-fashion/

I am horrified but to me it seems to be part of the wider collapse of the social contract, as a PP has suggested. It speaks of a fundamental lack of respect for social norms and for other people (and a lack of self-respect).

He might be a bit extreme but I get it. I wfh and I have tried working in PJs but I just don’t perform as well. I have to shower and put on clean clothes before I can feel normal.

Sure was and it hadn’t been open long.

some of them with last nights load still up their arse!

Catkat please tell us what this is!

chance you'll have washed and put underwear on. .

Not everyone washes in the morning, some people was before bed instead. Some people don't wear knickers at all, even in their normal clothes.

Are you sure they are pyjamas and not those pyjama-type lounge wears? I have some pyjamas that are more like lounge wear that I don't wear to bed, but wear around the house, and change to other pyjamas before bed. They might still look like "not proper clothes".

Last night's load means they had sex the night before and haven't showered since meaning there's still semen inside them