What is this new form of slobdom?

[Theokaycokey]

Staying at a seaside resort in the UK. Large Hotel has a massive open atrium that is overlooked by hotel rooms and anyone walking along the promenade. The hotel restaurant is located smack bang in the middle of the atrium and is open to the reception area. I come down to breakfast this morning and a significant number of guests are sat in their pyjamas having their breakfast! Different families, all scattered around the restaurant or queuing at the breakfast buffet in their nightwear and fluffy slippers. This is the first time that I have come across this. Is it a relatively recent phenomenon?

It doesn't matter what 'class' someone is, how much someone earns, or which car they drive. If they are a fit and healthy adult then there's no reason why they can't get up, wash, brush their teeth and put some clothes on before going out in public.

in your world!

can you explain why i have to live according to your standards?!

GO!

😮

I've seen it too, and it's horrible. Saturday afternoon in the city centre.

I got up last week, pottered about the house, did some jobs, cleaned out the garage, cut the grass and the hedges, swept the leaves and then needed to go to the tip to take the garden waste.

It dawned on me, I was still in my PJs with strawberries on them, all I had done that day was brush my teeth and splashed my face with later.

You will be pleased to know Mumsnetters, my house is off the road so no one saw me, and I changed into leggings and a t-shirt before I drove to the tip.

Can't say I wasn't tempted though...

I can't tell if this post is serious or not.

I find it difficult to believe that these people are wearing stuff they actually slept in unless it's very light negligee style. Most hotels these days are like ovens, goodness knows how high their energy bills are. Anyone wearing anything fleecy apart from kids must have either just put it on or get cold very easily.

To me clothes aren't just a practical concept - they're not just there to keep you warm or stop you getting arrested for indecency. They're signifiers of all kinds of things. I'll bet everyone here makes a judgment based on what other people are wearing all the time - some will be straight-forward snobs, others inverse snobs, but we'll all make assumptions about other people from their outward appearance/clothing choices.

Have you ever stopped to think how much nicer the world would be if we treated people as individuals and focused on their personality, character and kindness; rather than just obsessing about what particular 'wrapper' they have in order to conform as they feel pressured to do so?

If you opt for comfort above all other considerations, thenoneperson (you) is going to be happy. But thenhundredsof people might be put off their breakfast. So from a statistical point of view, I think it makes sense to spend that 5/10 mins putting on something prettier when going out to face the world.

If somebody is 'put off their breakfast' by a stranger wearing slightly different clothes from them at a different table, the problem really is with them and not the stranger.

Anybody who feels they cannot function properly if they're 'subjected to' the sight of people who are different from them in any way should check their prejudice and maybe seek help if they're finding that it truly irrationally impacts their life.

100%

A girl walked past my house in a dressing gown and slippers the other day. It’s a general dumbing down of society.

I can clearly see my husband's genitals when he is walking around wearing his pyjamas. So I don't want to see men other than my husband wearing their pyjamas, thanks very much.

The idea that someone is entitled to walk around in their nightwear with zero respect for anyone else around them because they have money and drive a BMW is next level grim. That doesn't say "money talks". That says "money can't buy class".

respect?

interesting!

what about wearing pjs is disrespectful? fascinating.

I would say that putting clothes on to go outside falls under the heading of "basic respect and consideration for others", yep.

well, i think we can agree to disagree!

clothes? pjs are clothes!

Im stopping now - im going to go out in my pjs 😅

Oh my

I'd also say that if I see you getting out of your shiny BMW to go to the shops in your pyjamas, so I can see that you have money, I'm not going to think, "maybe she's homeless and addicted to meths", I'm going to judge you much harder for being a slob.

Illuminating, isn't it?

Yes, never thought I'd get a live one

Unless his pyjamas are translucent or you have X ray vision, I suspect you mean you can clearly see the shape of his genitals under the cloth. You can also see this if a man is wearing tight trousers or lycra shorts. People have bits and pieces that bulge. Unless they are poking out from somewhere, you aren't seeing anything but the shape of something that you know exists.

So what are you actually upset about 'seeing'? A shape?

Agree. It's sad how low some people's standards are.

Eeek! Cringing so hard for you here!

Tight trousers and lycra hold everything in. Loose pyjamas made out of thin cotton allow things to, er, bounce around.

And that's as far as I really feel comfortable going with this. Suffice to say I don't want to see random men, or women for that matter, wearing their pyjamas in a public place, and I reserve the right to judge people who do this as slobs.

How staggeringly lacking in self awareness do you have to be to type all that and then conclude that other people have no class?

I dont showe in the morning, in my culture we have a shower (or more often bath) in the evening every day, so I suppose it's 'fanny wafts' all day everyday for most people...

I've seen the odd person in pyjamas in a supermarket, with a coat over the top. I do think these posts are exaggerated. So what if they are wearing night wear to pop down to breakfast or to the shops. I've never seen anybody in a hotel do it but it wouldn't put me off my cornflakes. This faux outrage is entertaining, though.

Its grim. I live near a tourist town in Cornwall and it’s not uncommon to see people in the local shop in their pj’s picking up a morning paper or pack of bacon. I can only assume they really don’t care what others think of them and manners?