To really, really want a third DC

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I’m 42. I have two lovely children. To have a third would be so stupid but … oh I want one. So much

I would say go for it! I'll bet most posters won't agree though. Age obviously would be the big concern but if you are healthy, why not.

It depends on your situation. Are you a single parent? Do you have a good financial situation, etc.

It is stupid, don't do it.

It really depends on why you think it would be stupid.

Do it 😁 It's wonderful.

Hormones or something else?

are you a single parent? no …

@TomatoSandwiches a little rude but never mind. I’m not actually in a position to have a third, DH would never agree. In a way I’d love to have a happy surprise only it wouldn’t really be happy. I don’t know why I’m so broody!

Same boat... my youngest is now 3 and I really want a third!

Won't make sense for me financially and for my mental health though...

If DH doesn't want to, he's just as entitled to say that as you are. Why not get a pet??

There’s my age … I’d be 44 when I had the baby.

Logistics: we’d need a new car, holidays would cost a fortune, days out and so on. Things like private school wouldn’t be possible.

There would be a very small age gap between no2 and non existent no3.

Time!

It would be very selfish. But I can’t stop myself still wanting another even though it would be so wrong.

The world is full to brimming with people
many kids out there with no one
adopt or count your blessings
sorry op but I think it’s irresponsible to have
more children when you’re already blessed with two

Some posters are acting as if it’s something I’m actually going to do. I’m not. I am saying I want one not that I’m actually going to have one!

Unfortunately I’m not allowed a pet either 😭

Women often get broody in their early forties. I think it’s your fertility saying ‘last chance saloon…it’s now or never!’.

Personally, I rode it out, didn’t have a third and at 46 I’m bloody glad I don’t have a reception aged child. But my children are 19 & 15 now. Maybe if I’d had little ones anyway it would’ve just felt like adding one more to the gang.

This always makes me laugh. At 42 I was really healthy. A decade later I'm not. I think age is a consideration. Personally, I'd stop at two and enjoy them.

Obviously only you and your DH can make this choice.

I suppose it depends on so many things - financially, can you afford it? How old are your current children- if they are late primary/secondary, the gap may be too large.
Would you want to go through the sleepless nights/nappies/toddler stage/weaning/teething again?

Do also consider the impact a 3rd may have on your current children. Me and my brother are very close and always have been. We were 4 and 9 when our sister was born. It wasn't a case of her 'just slotting in' like people say. We didn't find the change easy and looking back, our parents became quite overstretched.

OK, fair enough, YANBU to want one but not actually do it.
I'm sure you will get to a point in time where you'll look back and be glad you stuck at 2.

Why the face? Something wrong with single mums?

Current children are only preschool. I started late to this parenting thing. Like I say it really isn’t possible not least as DH would never agree which is probably good as I think my heart would rule my head. It’s stupid as I have a baby but am longing for another baby. No idea what my hormones are about!

@MrsTerryPratchett of course not! But I was genuinely confused as while I know some women do go down the donor route it’s not massively common and certainly not for a third baby, so I was a bit baffled as to why it was assumed I was single.

Is it worth having a chat with DH about it?

I have three and just found out I am expecting again (wonderful news) but we both knew/agreed we wanted a big family.

It is so so hard if you aren’t both on the same page. 💐

It's hormones. You will be so glad you didn't later, trust me.

Why aren’t you allowed a pet?

I can relate op. I felt like that for a long time. Like you, I could identify all the reasons it would be madness. But the longing was almost painful. And as you’re finding on this thread, there’s absolutely no place where you’re allowed to talk about it.

What changed for me was that we had unprotected sex right before I ovulated and given how quickly I fell pregnant I thought there was a high chance it could happen. And the happy little accident suddenly looked more like my life was going to blow up!

I wasn’t pregnant but it put it in perspective for me and I started to separate out the hormones from my thoughts.

And I sent dh to get the snip!

Hormone surge broodiness from 40 as entered peri menopause. I'm do glad dh had the snip

It's the hormones. What will you do if you have DC3 and the hormones tell you that you want DC4?