To be annoyed that my MIL after 4 years isn't able to spell her grandson's name?

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And yes it's a foreign name but it's only five letters :/

Yes that's pathetic even a four year old would be able to learn that

I mean the MIL is pathetic not you x

My mum regularly mixed DD's spelling with that of an older relative with the same name, different spelling. Raised eyebrows from my daughter as she got older but there were bigger things to get stressed about.

I'm in my thirties and many people in my family can't spell my name. I don't take it personally or care much.

I have an unusual name though which might not be the case with your child?

Anyway I wouldn't take it as a personal slight unless you're not telling us about a backstory that might be relevant.

I’m 45 and family members are still known to misspell my name, I’ve long since stopped caring.

Oh my days, I find that inexcusable. I'm a teacher and sometimes come across colleagues who can't get their heads around a pupil's name and somehow think that's OK. Stuff like not bothering to learn the most basic thing about another person ‐their name‐ is deeply disrespectful. Shame on MiL!

My name is 5 letters and my dad can’t spell it.

He was the one who registered my name in the first place - and he spelt it wrong then.

He now spells it the way it was always meant to be spelt, which is of course now wrong!

She’s an idiot or she doesn’t care. YANBU.

She needs to put a bit more effort in and learn how to spell it.

I have a daughter called Olivia. Not exactly weird or unusual. Her grandparents have been known to spell it Olivier on birthday cards.

My dickhead uncle has spelled my name wrong for 30 years. He’s been told time and again. But it’s a perfect example of what a self centred prick he is.

One family member manages to get my name and DS and DD's names wrong every time! It's a bit a joke now.

Maybe she has a mental block when it comes to spelling his name. I have a friend whose son's name can be spelt with either one or two 'n's. I can never remember which way it is spelt.

My name is 5 letters and is constantly spelled incorrectly. It’s not unusual either. My SIL is worst culprit but even when it is in front of people (email address & signature) it still seems to be a problem. I always check spelling and pronunciation of names of other people as over the years it has driven me mad. Makes me laugh now!

DD is 16. It's not even a foreign name. It's also the name of their mother. One of their aunts still spells it wrong. Literally spelt the same way as her mother but nope.

I've given up saying anything at this point. DD just rolls her eyes.

Stbxh couldn't spell DD2s name properly for the birth certificate. It's a normal, common name 🙄 It bothered DD2 so much i had to pay for a deed poll so her exam certificates, bank account and driving licence would be spelt properly.

My own mother that lives a long way away and I only see once a year couldn't remember my daughter name when she was too. After saying hello to me at a family gathering she literally pointed at my daughter and said "What is her name again?"

My mother is mentally perfectly fine for her age. My daughter has a tradition but easy English name to remember. Myself and my sister just looked at each other. I mean maybe she was winding us up or something. However my gut feeling is she didn't actually know her name.

Anyway op some of us can feel your annoyance at your mother inlaw

My DMs friend didn’t like the name her grandson was given so she gave him another name. She used that when talking about him. Grandparents can be very odd and rude.

Some people just have trouble spelling. I do. I always forget how to spell my sons middle name and think why didn’t I pick something easier 🤣

My MIL has been spelling my name incorrectly for over 25 years. She also spells DS name wrong. It's not deliberate; she just can't spell. I don't let it bother me at all.

@BaronessBomburst you've got it in one. Some people just can't spell.

Certain words are designed to trip us up and generally I avoid using them. Except you can't do that with names. Spell check doesn't help either. Spell check taught me when I was 30+ Certain begins with a C not an S.
I have a dear friend with a name, with or without an e, I've a 50/50 chance of getting it right. She knows me knows that it's the thought that counts.

@Sugarfree23 We thought spell check would help MIL with sending texts, but if she starts a word with a mistake in the first few letters it autocorrects to something completely different. WhatsApps can be interesting!

My mil can’t spell my daughters name right and we added an extra letter in so the name reflected their culture (baby’s culture too obviously) and she doesn’t even remember to add it! It doesn’t overly bother me. At least she calls her by her given name unlike her brother who got his middle name for years

@BaronessBomburst I've sent a few clangers in my time too. But spell check is the best thing since sliced bread as far as I'm concerned

I’m 24 and some of my family members still spell my name with a Y when it starts with a J. I don’t care though as I know it isn’t intentional. My name should be spelt with a Y but my mum wanted to be difficult!

I don’t think it’s worth getting upset about tbh. When your child’s older they’ll correct her but for now just politely correct her everytime