To be annoyed that my MIL after 4 years isn't able to spell her grandson's name?

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And yes it's a foreign name but it's only five letters :/

Some people are truly awful at spelling. Some are downright disrespectful and just don't bother. So it depends which your MIL is! Either way you can't force her, and as long as that's as far as it goes I would just roll my eyes at it and move on.

I'm guessing it's not Bobby. If you're a parent who has given a "speshul" or "yoonique" name, it's up to you to fix.

I'm Coral (Co-ral). Perpetually called Carol by GPs, receptionists, dentists, doctors, nurses, teachers etc. I've even been asked "are you sure?". It seems that the majority of peoples brains skip right over seeing the name written down clearly in front of them and their mouth just says Carol instead. It's not such an unusual name, there'll be many more now which would actually be a struggle to pronounce. Disregarding the vile American pronunciation of CAR-RILL. For the name Carl but pronouncing my name as CHOR-ULL

It's most likely the same as a couple of words, that always trip me up. No matter how many times I write them and think "I'll remember that now" they continue to catch me out. When you've got a mental block with a word, it's hard to escape it!

Honestly not her fault. My name is unusual (and foreign) and my lovely aunt has never got it right. I also struggle hugely with spelling so understand. I have never got her husband's name right (Michael) unless it's with predictive text! On paper fuck it up every time.
Unless it's deliberate don't judge her.

Nah. My sister can't spell mine and I'm 43 and she's 46

I think it can depend on the names. Hames - yess should be able to spell.

James spelled, J&miiz not so much.

ut a normal name shouldn't be problem.

If I had an issue with spelling I'd recognise this and have the name within easy reference somewhere, on a magnet on the fridge, on a drawing he'd given me, etc. so I could easily check.

No excuses after 4 years.

even if the kid has been given a 'speshul' name you act like a grown up and accept that that's their bloody name, and learn how to spell it.

But for some people sneering will always be more important.

Considering op said it was a foreign name, this is bordering on racist / xenophobic. Which doesn’t surprise me on MN

Oh, you mean speshul and yoonique like Catherine? I mean, Katherine. Oops, meant Kathryn!

Nope! It's a five letter traditional Spanish name and still #7 in terms of popularity where I'm originally from.

MIL can't spell my name either, but my name is definitely a pita to spell/pronounce . Which is why I chose an "easy" name for our son, the irony!

Dh's aunt has been known to spell my name in 3 different ways at one time.
Inside the card, on the envelope and on the gift.
It's not an unusual name and has 6 letters.
I don't think she's ever spelt it correctly.

Go no contact. It's the only way. She's obviously a narcissist. If she wasn't a MIL, she might have a mental block, or be dyslexic or a rubbish speller. But in the circumstances, never let her anywhere near your dd again.

My DCs stepmum still can't spell my DD name, and we've known her since before our children were born. But...she had little schooling and struggles with all sorts of spellings, so it is not her fault!
With your MiL, can she spell other names alright, or is it just your DS she doesn't seem able to spell?
If the latter, then she doesn't like the name, maybe feels slighted that you didn't use a name she wanted!
You could stick post-it notes all over her house with DS name on.
Tell her to learn to spell the name correctly or see less of him!
Teach your DS to correct granny when she mis-spells his name.
Tell your DS dad to have words with her, as it must annoy him, too!
Keep misspelling her name, or calling her something else, and she might get the message!!

Might she have dyslexia, OP? I had a friend years ago who found it hard to distinguish between “ir” and “ri” in words. It was as if he couldn’t see the order.

DD1 is 19. My mum and best friend still can't get it right. 6 letters.

Does she spell other things wrong in general? My MIL often writes my eldest’s name wrong. He’s Elliot but she will write it as Elliott, Eliot, even got Elliotte in a birthday card once! But generally her spelling is not good so I know it’s not intentional.

Only you know if this is intentional or not

This. I have a DSC with a beautiful name but my MIL just can't get it right so shortens it

It’s bad form from MIL. My name is short, and not unusual.
But, relatives have sent me birthday cards for years, with the wrong spelling.

I have a name that can be spelled 3 ways. Some of my family still get it wrong and I'm in my mid-40s!

ds2’s Name is 5 letters, yet my dad has never spelt it correctly. I suspect literacy difficulties though. Wish he was well enough now to still write.

she may be dyslexic. I have a friend with a 4 letter name that I have been spelling wrong hafl the time for nearly 30 years- however, she is a teacher specialising in dyslexia and understands. I can remember the spelling of many longer names, but also can never remember if my cousin is Joanne or Joanna.

I don't think it's a big deal. My name is sometimes spelt incorrectly in cards etc, I'm usually just glad they bothered. I've several friends and family called Clare/Claire and I am hopeless at remembering who spells it which way.