Those cool, messy, usually wealthy mums

[Shessodowntoearth]

I want to be one 😅
Does anyone know the type?
Usually quite a few kids, at least two, kids are lovely, but generally quite messy/put together in a kooky way.
Houses are beautiful, but messy/disorganised, beautiful pieces everywhere/decoration but with a lived in/messy vibe. The mums are the same, usually seem quite disorganised but chilled out at the same time, generally away somewhere every school holidays and don’t work.
I know quite a few mums like this near me and wonder what this life is like, mainly the having more money. I’d love to be as laid back if people come around, to not care about the mess as the house is so incredible, to not worry if my kids clothes look scruffy in a cool way and to be comfortable in myself. Is this what happens when you come from money?

WTF!

yeah there is a family like this near us. The mother is actually relatively famous in (local, regional) tv circles. her 3 kids are younger than my oldest (who is 13) and their hair is matted and smelly. My younger son had a sleepover with them a few years back and when i dropped off and picked up I was a bit askance at the sheer filth.

Every time I see her on tv so pristine I just think' why don't you wash your kids?'

There were quite a few of them at DS’ private school. There was a direct relationship between relaxed scruffiness and wealth. The more money they had the less they need to prove, they simply didn’t need to pretend they were rich or keep up with the Joneses because… they were the Joneses? 😁

Friend at school her mum and dad were posh as honey from Harrods yet their home looked like a squat. I still wanted to live there it was massive. They were vegetarians and bloody amazing in my eyes. I didn't know anyone else vegetarian.

School friend of my DD again posh, dad in UK is a surgeon, mum is a hat designer with her own business, took their kids out of school and lived in Gambia for a year. Massive house and grubby as anything. They gave me their DDs school uniform - it went straight in the bin. All with holes

Jilly Cooper's novels are stuffed with women and homes like this and, if you read her autobiographical books she is like this too.

I bet they aren’t if they’d have to identify you from your internet autobiography 😂

We used a forest school nursery and the whole nursery was like this, children being dropped off at school by their nanny’s in hand me downs full of holes! I actually found it nice because there was no pressure.

Same here

I feel this stereotype definitely fits me, although we’re not cash rich at the moment 😂

I try to make sure my house is clean, but keeping an immaculate house has never been a priority for me. I joke in too tired to both tidy and clean, so I’ll just sweep up around the toys rather than put them away first. Weekends are the only time I’d have the time or energy but then I’d rather spend time with my family doing more interesting things.

My mum is the same. House is clean but full of clutter.

I live in a small market town that has seen an influx of families who have moved here from London/ the London area and there are loads of mums like this. I assume a lot of them have money from previously having highly paid jobs in the city and from selling their tiny shoebox home in London and being able to afford a huge home in their new town of choice with the proceeds. Of the ones I know quite a few of the husbands still have their city jobs and work part of the week from home and then commute to the London office one or two days a week. I definitely know the type you mean OP and yes I am jealous as would love to not have to work.

Your username makes me smile because when I lived in Didsbury, the local druggie pub was The Snooty Fox. Lots of money there, apparently

I'm glad your not a spoof account, but there was one poster on here who used to pretend to be very very upper-class, with a winter kitchen and a salt cupboard. Then she blew it all by posting a photo of her beautiful bedroom which was taken from google images and was really a hotel room in Paris. Bless her. I used to enjoy her tall tales.

Just had a look at Carrie Johnson's instagram. Photos of her kids playing with chickens and a very telling post about how she views women who are fastidious about cleanliness.

"Some fluffy friends joined us for tea 🐥
Nothing brings me more joy than seeing how much my children love animals ❤️
(and yes Karen, everything was washed throughly afterwards!)"

Callie Coles - instagram full of toddlers crawling in puppy poo and ponies in the living room.

Quoting myself because I'm too late to edit.

You're not your. You are.

Crumbs, what an annoying mistake to make.

@RubyBoozeDay would it ruin my image if I told that you I lived just off the Princess Rd (next to Alexandra Park as it goes) in two different Halls when I was a student and also Withington Village in my last year? 😉

It was The Snooty Fox in Tetbury that actually inspired my user name 😁 I don't have a Winter Kitchen sadly but I used to do my shopping in Safeway in Chorlton and frequent the Horse and Jockey so I'm nearly the right sort! I do think it was being groomed by the Cheshire set on my course that set me on the road to ruin and cuddly chaps however 😉 and I've stayed incorrigibly County ever since 🤣

So much botox you can't tell when they're farting or laughing; like a newborn baby.

I asked my mum about hippies in the 60's she told me they were all rich. Everyone else had to go to work, don't think things gave changed much.

So true, I am in a two up two down tiny end terrace and if I just have a few things out it looks an utter tip because is it so small. I do have some nice bits but have to put a lot of thought into how I display them otherwise it just feels claustrophobic. I have to be careful that my furniture is smallish and in proportion, I have plain walls as patterned wallpaper would make the walls feel as if they are closing in on me. I am obsessed with storage solutions as I am so limited for space and waste a lot of time online seeking out the elusive perfect solution and I have regular clear outs, plus abiding by the "if something comes in, something goes out" rule as I am a bit of a magpie,

From where I live, lots of us mere “serfs” call them typical “middle Brighton mums”, very bohemian, smoke weed, walk around barefoot in the street as do their kids, crazy houses which are worth a small fortune in the right part of Brighton, and so on! The only reason I know this is because I have met many mums like this! Btw, the smoking weed isn’t obligatory to be a middle Brighton mum 😂

You need more style than Carrie Johnson could buy to be one of these women.
Carrie Johnson is Primark with money.

This. Double standards.

Ime exactly the sort of parents who do not nit comb their children when asked to by school
Or leave it to the nanny

And these free spirited cherubs can be right pains in the arse behaviour-wise

Boden don't do this look....though they wish to hell they did.

They wouldn't be 'sharing' photos.

I live in a very large period property that housed Brunel back in Victorian times. Large gardens and sea views. It is mortgage free and I have personal wealth so don't need to work again. This is due to property developing, consulting work and inheritance. I work for some kind of occupation, and not really for the salary. I am not tramp scruffy, but not a glamorous mother either. Makeup free, hair scraped back most days as have neither time nor inclination to do more. I live in leggings and baggy jumpers. As I work from home, I suppose people might think I was unemployed if they didn't know me well. My kids are not following the latest looks or trends, and never watch TV, and both are a bit eccentric like me. It is their choice to do what they want with their lives, within certain limits. My house is a disgusting mess. I used to be house proud but I have long given up caring, or knowing what happened to the Dyson. If we are all fed, kitchen sink is cleared, kids are washed and warm then my duties are done. This change in attitude came through illness, and that helps you focus on what is important rather than what people think. People might think I was lucky to be a millionaire with a professional background that lets me work for myself when I want (or choose not to). They might forget that wealth cannot buy you health, and if you have a bad genetic payload then no amount of Bohemian living is going to make that better. I am having major surgery soon for a cancer diagnosis with life changing consequences arising from the procedure. I had passing thoughts about how I might let district nurses in to check on me when the house is a large sprawling pig stye. They may faint. I may get cleaners in beforehand, and they may faint too. I may decide that if I have life threatening illness, visitors can judge all they like, and I can choose to ignore that judgement as life is too precious to spend all of it scrubbing floors. Sometimes financial circumstances let you not care what others think. In my case, I suppose I do care about living conditions, but haven't got many options to change things in this state. So, I just accept circumstances for what they are.