To cancel our DS's birthday party?

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Our boy will turn 4 in a week. I have the invitations to nursery for them to hand out and I think people haven't checked their kids' bags. My husband thinks they're just waiting to know about their plans.

Out of 8 invitations only 2 have confirmed and 2 have said they can't make it. My husband is of the idea that we should cancel if we don't get to 3. I tend to agree as I think otherwise it would make things awkward.

We're not the best at social situations and we know our son doesn't really play/have friends so we know he won't know any difference. I feel bad he won't have a party, but my husband doesn't see the big deal as he never had one.

The plan was to just have them children at home and have a few activities for them to do. That worked last year!

This whole thread makes no sense. How have you decided who to invite if you don't know either the children or the parents?

He's 4! Chill out.

Bake a cake.
Get some supermarket pizza.
Buy some fruit veg, chop it.
Get some some homous
Pom bears.
Raisin / smartie boxes

Wrap a pass the parcel.
Whack some music on.

Either tea, coffee or prosecco for the parents (depending on your vibe).

Done!

How will you cancel if you can't contact the parents?

Because I asked my son for some names and he was able to come up with three. Plus the one I know, plus the one who invited him to his party, plus three blank ones.

I would have let the ones that RSVPed know

It's all a moot point as a third one has now confirmed

Good grief!

1. ask the parents if their child is coming.
2. have the party even if it’s just ONE child!

what kind of awful message does it send to your son that he’s not having a party because not enough people will come?

you say you are not sociable and at the moment your child doesn’t really have friends.

Whilst your child not really having friends at the moment isn’t that big a deal and isn’t that unusual, it will become a problem if it continues into primary school. As a parent, you are also a person with your personal preferences about how sociable you wish to be, but you also now have your son to consider. I suggest you have a little bit of a rethink about your attitudes towards friendship in general.

Just because you don’t seem to want them or haven’t been successful in this area doesn’t mean that that should be what is deemed to be right for your child

Why on earth would someone reawaken a zombie thread about a party that happened six months ago
Dear god I do wonder about people's basic comprehension skills

Do you have the parents numbers? If I didn't hear back I'd always send a message saying "Sorry to bother you but I need to confirm numbers for the party. Can Rex make it?". They'd always reply to that. If you dont have numbers I'd just ask in the playground. I certainly wouldn't cancel it. Even if only two come it'll still be fun for your child.

I imagine this is no longer a problem as this thread is from October 2023🙄

Unfortunately people these days aren't polite enough to RSVP whether it's a yes or a no. Go ahead anyway but manage expectations around how many may be coming. AAAARGH ZOMBIE

I don't think it's nurserys job to sort out your kids party arrangements.

You can still have party games, hats, cake, balloons, a video to wind them down at the end.

You need to be more proactive, get to know which child the parents belong to, get yourself on WhatsApp groups etc.

THE PARTY WAS SIX MONTHS AGO