DH and flying

[cruelladepoppins]

First world problems, but here goes.

I have a big birthday next year. For my last big birthday ten years ago, we rented a villa with pool abroad with extended family staying for a fortnight. It was great. This time, I'd quite like to do something similar, as would both DCs (now adults). Maybe just the 4 of us, or with a friend for each DC.

The sticking point is that DH is v much against flying, for environmental reasons. His attitude has hardened in recent years. I totally respect that. But I soooo want to go. It's not like I fly often - maybe once a year, usually to take DM on holiday. DCs are champing at the bit and I am torn.

DH suggests we rent a house in Scotland where we live and have extended family to stay, but (a) crap weather, no pool (b) I can't imagine extended family would want to come (c) it very much feels like second-best and (d) he doesn't drive so I would have to schlep us all the way there.

DM suggests I set up what I want, without him, but that makes me feel sad.

Any advice? Are there nice places within easy reach of (say) Edinburgh? Anyone experienced anything similar?

Oh - Train then.

What’s with the not driving? Do you live in the middle of a city or are you his taxi service?!

Anyway, train or you go without him.

Sorry, you mean he does eat some meat? Whatever justification he uses for that, he can use to go on one holiday. If you even want him there which I absolutely wouldn’t.

don’t put your boring dh’s needs before your poor kids.
you say they are chomping at the bit, so why does one misery guts get to dictate and ruin your fun.

Leave the miserable git at home with his oat milk and go on the holiday you want.

Christ on a bike. Do you really want to be with this man for the rest of your life?! He sounds utterly miserable. No way I could live with that. Bin him off bring a good friend or relative.

Thats it! Well you eat some meat so you can go on some flights. Does he eat eggs? Cheese? If he's not fully vegan and living completely sustainably then he's a hypocrite anyway might as well enjoy himself for once.

Sounds like virtue signalling a little. Tell him to stay at home you go with your kids and enjoy.

Does your husband not drive due to eco beliefs? Does he cycle instead? But does that mean you’re the daily taxi, holiday driver & general dogsbody/chauffeur?
That doesn’t seem fair if so. Like his request not to go abroad.

Balls to that. You fly. Let him drive/take the bus.

Fuckinghell as I thought. He eats meat. And makes babies. What a hypocrite and how anyone could find such a person attractive enough to damage the environment with his babies is utterly beyond me. There's a reason he chose a dithering passive woman. Most people would have swerved to avoid such a bollockless specimen.

What a controlling loser. I'd be buying the biggest gas guzzler I could afford and then running him over with it.

More seriously, go on the holiday you want and stop pandering to this arsehole.

And then get a divorce.

I know you say he doesn't drive, but does he have lifts off other people?

He sounds like a real misery actually.

Generous people who embrace life

The planet is burning, how is a 12-hour round trip for a 16-hour visit “generous”? Greedy and showy more like.