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If you met your Dh in your teens

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Oldabondonedswings · 13/10/2023 14:23

Are you still together? How is life now?
I met Dh at 17, looking back we were just babies, 45 now…interested to see if anyone is in a similar situation.
Did your relationship last?

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OnceUponATimeInChristmasTime · 13/10/2023 15:35

Oldabondonedswings · 13/10/2023 14:29

Does anyone regret/feel curious about not having any/many other relationships and sexual partners?
I often if it’s not the greatest thing I’m the world that I’ve never had to be truly independent, never had to live alone for example or face life alone

Not really. Sometimes I wonder if my life would have panned out differently (or his) had we not got together. But certainly have no regrets with him being my only partner.

Munchyseeds2 · 13/10/2023 15:38

I was 18, he was 21
In our 50's now and very happy
Wouldn't want anyone else!

barneythedino · 13/10/2023 15:40

I was 16 when I got with now DH, he was 25. 13 years and 2 kids and we are still as happy as we were then!

WeighDownOnMeStayTillMorning · 13/10/2023 15:40

Yes @OnceUponATimeInChristmasTime I do wish I'd been more independent first. I think I'd love living by myself!

sprigatito · 13/10/2023 15:41

Met at 18, now 46 with children aged 19 and 21. We're still pretty much inseparable.

FlamingoQueen · 13/10/2023 15:47

Met my dh when I was 18. Got married 9 yrs later and celebrate our silver wedding anniversary in a few weeks.
There are times when I wish I’d lived a bit more first, but we’re happy.

TravellingT · 13/10/2023 15:47

Met at 18, started dating at 19, married at 21. I'm 29 and we're still very happily together, still in the 'honeymoon' phase. 5 Children, multiple house moves and business ventures later.

Mothership4two · 13/10/2023 15:51

What are you expecting to happen on this thread @hjytrjulykuyh ? Do you want the other poster to turn around and discuss her regrets about her whole life? You have strong opinions (fair enough) but you are talking about @Motomum23's personal life and she is going to be sensitive about judgemental comments especially from a total stranger. Your language is not balanced as they were banging/fucking/shagging when actually they were in a relationship. She really is in a far better position to know the ins and outs of her long relationship and marriage than you.

When I was 17 I went out with a 26 year old. I wasn't groomed, knew exactly what I was doing and everything went at my pace and I never felt I had no control. He didn't pursue me, I showed an interest in him. He was a really nice guy and we stayed friends for many years afterwards.

And, no, I would not be happy if my 19 yo DS told me he was going out with a 43 yo person. His situation and my feelings about it are different to how I would feel/judge others who have gone down that route.

Cornishmaiden · 13/10/2023 15:53

Met at 17, married at 21. He was in the Forces so had to be independent. Still married 35 years later. We have had tough times especially when he left the Navy and I had Cancer but in the words of Shania Twain...he is still the one I run to.

FrostyPopThePenguinLord · 13/10/2023 15:54

I was 16 and he was 17, together 15 years, married 6 and 3 children. I have no regrets, we’ve done everything together and no one knows me better. I’d say my biggest fear is along the lines of what if something happened to one of us, we are a great team but we both fill very specific roles so the other doesn’t have to even think about it. Nothing you couldn’t learn but it would be a steep learning curve either way.

Sagittarius25 · 13/10/2023 15:56

Yep I was 14 he was 15, married at 23 and 24 and together 13 years now, baby number one is due two weeks today. I'm often thankful I didn't have to navigate the dating landscape as an adult, seems like a nightmare half the time 😂

EvilElsa · 13/10/2023 16:01

Yes, I met DH at 17 and he was 19. I'm now 42, very happily married and two late teenage children. We've never even had a real argument. He's my very best friend.

romany4 · 13/10/2023 16:02

Met at 18. He was 21.
Got engaged after a few months. Married 33 years now.
2 adult children and a toddler grandson now

We've had a lot of challenges. DH is now disabled and he was left with some brain damage after a stroke last year.
Still in love and happy

IMarchToADifferentDrummer · 13/10/2023 16:03

How is this an 'Am I Being Unreasonable' talk??

HunterBidensBurnerPhone · 13/10/2023 16:05

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Lulu1919 · 13/10/2023 16:11

Yes we met late teens ..I was then 21 when we got married
Been married for over 33 year !

CateringPanic · 13/10/2023 16:14

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WeighDownOnMeStayTillMorning · 13/10/2023 16:14

Jesus Christ @HunterBidensBurnerPhone

dolorsit · 13/10/2023 16:17

18 and 19, now in our 50's

It was 6 years before we lived together, another 10 before we married so plenty of time to be independent. Not fussed about dating as I was very busy before we met 😂

We have both changed but luckily grown together rather than apart.

Dahliasrule · 13/10/2023 16:19

Met at16 married at 18 and have been married for 55 years!

ShippingNews · 13/10/2023 16:19

Yes, I met DH when I was 17 and he was 27. Had a romance . Didn't marry him then - our ways parted and we married other people, had children etc, both divorced. He tracked me down in 2003, we chatted online for a few months, then met again. Got married in 2008. So happy, it's wonderful. I'm 63 and he is 74, people think we've been together forever, they think we're "such a cute couple", ha ha.

Christmas202 · 13/10/2023 16:21

My parents met at 18 and 19 . They are married 47 years. I met my husband at 17 (30 now) were very happily married with 2 kids. Have absolutely zero regrets.

WeeStyleIcon · 13/10/2023 16:23

Motomum23 · 13/10/2023 14:24

Yes met DH at 17 - now 37 - been married 17 years in December with 4 kids. More in love than ever if that's possible. There's also a 26 year age gap between us.

Would you be able to connect with a 17 year old now. Looking back do you see it only through a romantic lens 😲

MrsJellybee · 13/10/2023 16:31

17 and 22. Together 28 years. It’s worked for us, but I wouldn’t recommend it.

mindutopia · 13/10/2023 16:32

Not teens, but dh had just turned 21 when we met (I'm a few years older). Honestly, I think it's quite young. I would be fairly panicked if my 21 year old in 3rd year of uni had rocked up home with a (slightly older - I was out of uni and working/doing a postgrad degree at the time) woman and announced to everyone that he was going to marry her - which is pretty much what happened. I would have laughed it off and not taken it seriously and probably hoped he'd see some sense and spend a few more years dating and living life before settling down.

We are late 30s/early 40s now so been together 15+ years and very happy and solid. But I think that is much more down to dh being super level headed and really sensible and me knowing I had a good one when I stumbled across him, so I snatched him up right away. When I think back to my teens/early 20s, the kinds of people I was dating were walking red flags and I would have had a pretty unhappy life if I'd ended up with any of them. I think that does have a bit to do with age, I needed to grow up a bit to see I deserved more, but ending up with dh, who was quite young but really lovely, was more just luck than age.