If you met your Dh in your teens

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Are you still together? How is life now?
I met Dh at 17, looking back we were just babies, 45 now…interested to see if anyone is in a similar situation.
Did your relationship last?

Met at 17 and 18. Still together aged 33 and 34. Married 6 years. 1 DC and another on the way. All good so far! Like others have said I think a lot of luck plays into it and we've grown up together rather than apart - it could have easily gone a different way and I've also seen most of our friends separate/divorce from their partners who got together at a similar time to us.

met first year of university. now married 51 years

i ‘got with’ my husband aged 14, and was pregnant at 15. our son was born a month before we both turned 16. we’re both 32 now, still together, very happy and still very much in love, with 2 boys and 2 girls. we’re in the minority though, i only know of one other couple that have stayed together since school.

To answer your other questions, I don't regret not having other relationships. I've had plenty of sex with other people, and I've always been very independent.

We were 17 and 18 and still together 21 years later.

Are you for real?

If you seventeen year old daughter met a 43yr old man who ended up impregnating her four times, would you be celebrating it or calling it out?

Abuse is abuse, won't ever apologise for speaking up about it. Ever.

We were both 19, met at uni. Now 36 and still together. I actually think most of my friends have married their uni boyfriends, now I consider it!

I'm fascinated by couples who have been together since they were teens.

I had two long term relationships in my 20s, but when I was single I had a great time shagging around, travelling and basically just pleasing myself. I learned so much about myself and how to love my own company and be self-reliant. By the time I settled down with DH at 30, I'd got everything out of my system.

I was such a different person aged 30 from the person I was at 16. I can't imagine having gone through that journey of growth with someone else and not also outgrown them. I'm so impressed by couples who've managed it.

Also, my boyfriend when I was 16 was a right bellend and then turned out to be a heavy drug user later in life so I had a lucky escape!

Yep me and my husband got together at 14 now 29 with three children!

No regrets. I am pretty certain we have both been faithful throughout. I always felt I was independent and as DH was in the Armed Forces I had to be and had many long periods alone. We are very different people. I have no complaints in any area of my marriage other than he is sport mad and I can't stand it!

I do know a friend of a friend who married her childhood sweetheart in her 20s but they split up when she was 29 because she was bored and took him for granted (her words) and then bitterly regretted it for many years afterwards. (especially when he met someone else within a couple of years - still together). She seems married now but considers DH1 the love of her life and still regrets leaving him. This cautionary tale is not me condoning staying together no matter what!

Really! I pursued him not that it's any of your business. I am an almost 40 year old woman - perfectly capable of rational logical thought. My husband is the kindest, most gentle man you could possibly meet - actually the perfect husband in pretty much every way.

I was 19 when I met DH, he was 25. Been together for 24 years. Ups and downs but still happy together.

Met at 21 and 19 , been together 39 years and married for 33 years 3 grown up dc , cannot imagine life without him , he’s my best friend .

God. This is upsetting to read. I'm genuinely so sorry that as a seventeen year old legal child you were groomed and abused by a 43yr old man. And that you weren't able to recognise that when you grew older.
Don't think this is quite the happy, positive tale OP was looking for

Woah I missed this.

Yeah a 43 year old man and. 17 year old girl is wrong however you try and dress it up.

I know it's not in the spirit of the thread but this sort of grooming needs to be called out for what it is. Pretending 'age is just a number' or 'it lasted the distance so they must be happy' is just normalising abuse.

Any posters saying they wouldn't give a shit if their 17 year old daughter was shagging a 43 year old man are absolute liars.

Met mine at 19 and I'm 35 now. The absolute love of my life.

Yes, I most certainly am for real.
If my daughter's met someone who loved and cared for them in the manner that I expected them to, and they were happy, then they would have my blessings.
I say that as the mother of daughter's.
If you see that as abusive, then the only warped mind is yours.
Furthermore, I'd suggest that you keep your nose out of other people's relationships. They have absolutely nothing to do with you.

Met at 18/19 years old at church and we went to the same university. Married for 13 years, we've travelled the world, had two DC with another on the way, bought a house, lived in a foreign country for 10 years, learned another language... It's a dream and I hope that it continues.

Really! I pursued him not that it's any of your business. I am an almost 40 year old woman - perfectly capable of rational logical thought. My husband is the kindest, most gentle man you could possibly meet - actually the perfect husband in pretty much every way

So gentle and kind that he had sex with a 17 year old girl who had a crush on him.

And you weren't capable of rational logical thought at 17 if you were pursuing a man over twice your age.

My DH is 43. If he fucked a 17 year old I'd be disgusted.

Met at 14
Now 54 and still together

I met DH at 16, now 38. We muddle along fine most of the time but I in particular feel I've changed a lot since then (he's still a 19 year old at heart ).

I do wonder what it would be like to meet someone now as a fully fledged grown up with a stronger opinion of who I am and what I need in a partner, but not willing to risk everything to find out!

Met at 18, married at 21, together 20 plus years. No regrets, still in love.

Yep, met at 17, still together, married with kids, 24 years later.

I met mine on my 16th birthday! Married when I was 23. We have had some very definitely rocky times, and even split for a couple of years in the middle, but after that it's been smooth sailing. I would 100% never leave him.

Met at 16, he's a couple years older. Had babies at 18 and 20. Now 26, married for a year. I did have a little waver about not being ready to settle down when I found out I was pregnant but I wouldn't change it for the world. He's a good man

I met my oh a month after her 20th birthday. I was 2 months short of mine. We've been together for nearly 30 years