To think any parent would do the same? Or am I bonkers

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On holiday in the buffet eating dinner all I could hear was my son crying walking from the bar with his juice in his hand. I thought oh maybe he fell over so DH went over to him. Turns out that this little girl that has been picking on him for the past 2 days her dad has grabbed DS and twisted arm so tight he broke his skin and dug his nails into him. (German family)

DS has been coming to me about her saying she keeps pushing him and sticking her fingers up since they arrived. DS finally got annoyed and pushed her back earlier on in the day and she told her dad. So dad got his own back on DS.

I ran over to DH as he was shouting at the dad and the dad was just smirking and something just came over me and I punched him in the face.

Never in my life have I punched anyone and I didn’t think about the consequences at the time I just kept looking at my son he was in flood of tears.

It was the weirdest feeling I have never felt adrenaline like it.

aibu? How would you have handled it? The hotel did absolutely nothing.

I would hope I wouldn't have done it, but I sure would have wanted to! Its a wonder he didn't hit you back!

This!

I’m confused why there seem to be only two options in some peoples’ minds

1. Do nothing and let them ‘get away with it’
2. Punch them

In the real world there are a whole load of responses between those extremes which protect the child better going forward (no risk of parents arrest, for eg), resolve the situation and teach appropriate conflict resolution.
I also have no idea why losing my temper to the extent I didn’t know what I was doing would make anyone respect me.

Yeah, you really shouldn’t have hit a random man, that’s a big no no.

This thread though is really showing how snobby some posters are on here.

Haha!!!

when North Korea and Russia nuke us all - all the keyboard warriors on here against what OP did will be sitting there saying:

“I’m so offended how dare you! - we must under no circumstances respond with violence. Let’s just give them a good talking to… that’ll teach them a lesson! If we are all dead atleast we definitely did the right thing. Never ever respond with violence”
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I don't think there would be any barriers to something I would do to defend my children from an adult who hurt them. What a despicable man to do that to a 6yo.

Fair enough if that’s your experience, but I doubt that it’s the same for all the posters with the superior attitude who are whipping out the working class stereotypes as though violent behaviour is confined to one type of person.

Quite right. Because an adult grabbing a child pushing their child is the same as dropping a nuclear bomb on another country.

Good he shouldn’t have touched your child then. He’s lucky it wasn’t his little brat of a daughter too 😂

My friend grew up with a mother who was regularly involved in fights. She has grown up deeply ashamed of her and yep, we are all working class Londoners but we don’t all resort to violence and then expect our kids to be proud

Apart from the silly false equivalence with nuclear war, several posters have in fact said it would have been understandable if the OP had hit the man while he was hurting her child. That’s not what happened.

The Welsh NHS is run by Labour and has been for a very long time. It's a fucking mess.

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Glad you’re all enjoying my comment 😘😘😘

I'm not sure it's Labour's fault that the OP lamped someone during her hotel buffet.

I am saying that a 6 year old may not tell things exactly as they happened, especially when that parent told the child to push the other girl and should have intervened sooner.

Probably not the best move but honestly I smiled when you said you punched him. I bet the little prick wasn't expecting that.

This thread proves my opinion that in a lot of cases people expect others to handle their situations for them whether it be police, schools, etc

We’re talking an adult man assaulting a 6 year old child he didn’t even know. Who the fuck thinks ‘I should handle this in a classy way’ at that moment?

OP I don’t blame you for doing what you did one bit. Well done!!

You are embarrassing yourself now.

I don't condone violence in general, but I can't think of a single scenario in which a grown man/woman can physically hurt my child purposefully, and I don't spark them.

I also can't think of another scenario (besides being physically assaulted myself) where I'd resort to violence on anyone, for any reason at all.

However, everything is very hoity-toity and sanctimoniously black and white on MN, so I must be a thug.

Have you spoken to the police yet?

Has he been arrested?

We're actually talking about someone assuming an adult man assaulted a child, and also a poster's inability to parent their child so much that it escalated into a slanging/punching.......very different entirely!

She can't contact the police because she punched him!

Definition of embarrassing:

cause (someone) to feel awkward, self-conscious, or ashamed.

I can happily tell you that I feel none of these things!

Thank you for caring about me though 😘

‘Go to your head’
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I think you’re projecting @5128gap ! So sad it shows how often you are used to being taken down a peg/ taking others down a little peg
if that’s what you tell a mother who reacted passionately to someone who assaulted her small child.

cannot believe how anyone could think it’s any way acceptable for a strange man to injure a kid!

shocking really

good on you OP.

Interesting that the OP described her behaviour as likely to be thought of as “bonkers”. That’s akin to the old “I’m mad me”. No, you’re just rough love