To think any parent would do the same? Or am I bonkers

[Doritosandsourcream]

On holiday in the buffet eating dinner all I could hear was my son crying walking from the bar with his juice in his hand. I thought oh maybe he fell over so DH went over to him. Turns out that this little girl that has been picking on him for the past 2 days her dad has grabbed DS and twisted arm so tight he broke his skin and dug his nails into him. (German family)

DS has been coming to me about her saying she keeps pushing him and sticking her fingers up since they arrived. DS finally got annoyed and pushed her back earlier on in the day and she told her dad. So dad got his own back on DS.

I ran over to DH as he was shouting at the dad and the dad was just smirking and something just came over me and I punched him in the face.

Never in my life have I punched anyone and I didn’t think about the consequences at the time I just kept looking at my son he was in flood of tears.

It was the weirdest feeling I have never felt adrenaline like it.

aibu? How would you have handled it? The hotel did absolutely nothing.

Only a certain “type” of mother would have public punch-ups and see herself as a good role model to her kids

SAME 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻

I think you need to add more words to this - currently it doesn't offer much in the way of meaning.

‘My DS would be inconsolable as violence is not something that forms part of our everyday life. Let me guess, he wasn't disturbed in the slightest by your behaviour because he's seen it all before. Desperately sad.’

Yes this is key. The posters here applauding the OP clearly live in a world where violence, shouting and poor behaviour is endemic. The depressing thing is that the cycle continues down the generations.

I guess my kids had the privilege of growing up in a community where issues were solved verbally, and punches were not thrown. It’s sad that not all children in families on this thread have that. Including the OP’s poor kids.

;-)

It is hard not to form a mental image of the posters on here who are getting all excited over the punch thrown by the OP.

We' don't know if he even did what she claims

I think you are fab @Doritosandsourcream 👍💖

Why?

On response to a pp
Why might a grown man grab a child so hard it shows?

The child was hurting his child so he pulled the child off

The child looked like they might be about to injure themselves on sone broken glass : tripped over something : getting in the way of a waitress carrying something heavy so he pulled the child away

So the obvious solution is to punch first and ask questions later

I'm guessing "tracky bottoms" and tattoos, and leathery sunned-skin. But that's just an invented scenario, whereas the OP definitely isn't.

Well, at least the child will have plenty to say in the "show and tell" when he goes back to say why he's been skipping school for a week during term time.

So many mums here bigging up running up and punching someone in the face as a method of dispute resolution. Toxic femininity.

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It sounds like an episode of benidorm. Why would you not supervise your young child better on holiday? Surely that would be the first step, make sure your son isn't alone with this other child.

I think some of you need to tone down the classism. In most cases, it is not a personal triumph to have been socialised to deal with conflict appropriately, so the sneering isn’t necessary.

Good for you OP x

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I think some of you need to tone down the classism. In most cases, it is not a personal triumph to have been socialised to deal with conflict appropriately, so the sneering isn’t necessary

It is in my case. Mum and I beaten black and blue (mum far worse than I) by my dad then brother. That’s how I know that violence is not the answer.

Only a certain “type” of mother would have public punch-ups and see herself as a good role model to her kids

Not only that, but there are plenty of women who are happy with the men in their life dishing out violence on their behalf.

Good fior you. Standing up for your son

So child A pushed child B
The child B told adult B/C who did nothing to correct it
Then child A pushed the child B again
So child B then pushed then child A back
Child A told their parent A who as an adult assaulted child B
Child B told an adult B who then verbally abused adult A
Then adult C (you) physically assaulted adult A

WTF... why didn't you just address it at the start point? it was two kids being kids and now two adult have broke the law and made themselve look like complete asshole and put their children directly in danger.

What if this man fought back?
What if your child had been injured or killed in the resulting retaliation? it HAS happened before (a woman in asia was beaten into a coma and her two year old killed when someone flew into a rage at her walking too slow with a pram... that was without her even doing anything, you PUNCHED a man who was already angry at your child).

All adults should be ashamed... poor kids.

I mean, I'm sure I would have loved to have punched an adult who assaulted my child 100% but I don't think I would have because I don't want my son growing up thinking that behaviour is acceptable either or that it's an OK way to deal with conflict. I'd have made a complaint to the hotel that an adult assaulted my child and I'd have insisted the police be called. I'd have also insisted that he be removed from the hotel. Horrible timing since you say you were due to leave but I'd have phoned the police directly to make a complaint and then followed it up by phone.

In reality there are just shit people in the world and this was one of them. The life lesson for your ds is really that we say our bit then walk away with head held high and have nothing to do with them again. That even adults get it wrong sometimes and he doesn't need to blindly obey his elders. We can't control what others do only our reactions.

Absolutely horrible thing to do to a child though.