To ask for a "gift" back?

[OrangeEggsAndHam]

I'm currently decluttering. I have an iPad Pro 2021 that has just been sitting there gathering dust. It was used as my primary note-taking device for a 3-4 month stint while I was doing some courses, but now that that's over, I've been trying to sell it on.

An old acquaintances of mine saw my post on Facebook and sent a sob story about how her DS could really use it for school, how they are really struggling with the CoL crisis etc. She asked if I could loan them the iPad for 2-3 years till things get better for them. In 2-3 years it'd depreciate even more and selling it then would take more effort than what it was worth so I said I'd give it to her.

That was 2 weeks ago. Fast forward to yesterday I messaged her asking how DS was getting along with his iPad and she told me that she was planning to sell it on, get a cheaper iPad, and then use the extra money to get the kids some presents for Christmas! If I'd known her DS wasn't going to use the iPad I'd have just sold it on instead of giving it to her!! My plan was never to subsidise her Christmas...

I've since asked for the iPad back which she is very reluctant about. She's been saying something about how they've already factory reset the device, have arranged for a buyer to collect it next week, have looked into getting a base model device etc. Asked her to pay my original asking price (which is £50 more than what she's posted it for) and she said she can't afford that.

WIBU to ask her to give it back or pay the asking price minus £50? I know it was a gift but the only reason I offered to give it to her is because she said her DS REALLY needed it and was going to use it!

It would make a HUGE difference!

If someone gives you things to help you out, for example Baby things that’s them making sure you have everything you need and are not struggling. Once your child outgrows the items you should then do the same with them, they are not yours to sell on 🤷‍♀️

Completely agree! They are helping you out then in turn you help someone else out.

I agree @Tbry. It’s the drive thing to do.

Forget it, you gave it to her but never help her out again.

You gave it to her on condition that her son use it because he needed it, it so she could sell it for some extra cash, which is what you’d been going to do yourself. She’s a nasty piece of work for trying to make money off a gift to her son so the normal rules don’t apply, so I’d say you’re right to ask for it back.

But they already knew I wasn't struggling. They just wanted to declutter. I genuinely don't care if people I've given free stuff to want to make the effort to sell it. I don't want it back.

But, as I previously mentioned, this isn't really the same as the OP's dilemma. Because the people who gave me free baby stuff had no inclination to sell it themselves and didn't want it back.

She’s brazen, I’ll give her that!
It’s odd that you just gave away something so expensive to someone who isn’t even a friend.
You did give it though, so she can do what she likes with it.
I’d just focus on the fact it was your choice to give it away, so you’re not down financially.

Why would you say I'll give you it? You were selling it. She was cheeky enough to give a sob story and ask to borrow something for 2 years, something you were planning on selling.

I'm not shocked she's selling it, you should expect something like this from someone that has the brass neck to ask for something that you are selling and for free but you can't ask for it back, you told her she could have it unless you meant on lone?

What happened in the end?