Why start a thread if you never return to it?

[BerriesNutsConkers]

I'm getting so fed up with posters starting a thread and never returning to it!
What is the point of asking a vague AIBU and not responding to any requests for relevant info?

I presume trolls really

New posters sometimes probably get overwhelmed by the level of vitriol received on AIBU…
Others maybe just didn’t get the answers they hoped for
Some maybe feel embarrassed
All sorts of reasons probably.

@WandaWonder
Same.

I think the main reason is probably the battering the OP gets (as it's more often the inflammatory threads where the OP never returns). Other than that, it's shit stirring.

People sometimes aren’t very nice on here, that’s why I don’t always respond. Also it’s easy not to now you can use the thanks button.

Some people use AIBU as CTIANBU (confirm that...) and are absolutely astonished when some/most/all people tell them that they ARE BU. Some folk do live in extremely small worlds and it comes as a massive shock to them to discover that not everybody thinks the same way that they do about things.

Also, some people are buzzing with perceived injustice about something petty and thus start the thread, but they soon gain some perspective and realise that it doesn't really matter - so they leave the thread, whilst others are exercised and active because they can't believe how bothered somebody is about a 'so-called friend' telling them that something they bought on their behalf cost a fiver when it was actually only £4.93.

Plus what PPs said.

Yes I tend to think trolls too especially if they have little or no history.

Or maybe some get their answer and move on?

Drunk posting and then forgetting they've done it?

Is @BerriesNutsConkers ironically planning to not post again too?

Yes, me too.

I think speckson has a major answer, also if you get piled on there is no point going back and trying to justify or explain your points, it will just add to the finger wagging snark. Or you will get accused of erm that thing where you only mention something relevant later, the name has escaped me.

It's annoying, but I do find it amusing when OP doesn't come back and the thread gets up to 10+ pages of posters arguing amongst themselves about the tiniest nuances of the opening post.

I go to the OP first and click ‘see all’ to check if they’ve replied, if they haven’t I don’t bother to read.

Dripfeeding.

😂

Yes! Thank you soundthesirens

But OP didn't say it was annoying she said she was fed up!

A response isn’t necessarily required. Many replies either go off topic or say that the original poster hasn’t given enough info without praps considering they have said all the wish to.

I did a topic once where people got very shirty with me. The question I asked was not in AIBU and there was nothing controversial about it. The vitriol was absurd to the point of surreal. NB this was yonks ago and I’ve name changed etc. waaay back. No I’m not saying what it was about, but the point is that as soon as I started answering it got much worse

Yes, I am.

I was cooking!!!

Honestly there are some threads started like my son (who is 14) blah blah blah gets piled on how old is the child? You haven't said their ages?????!!!!! Etc OP or another poster might point out they are 14 they then get castigated for "not giving the information sooner" and so it continues with one side accusing OP of dripfeeding the other accusing them of lacking in reading and comprehension skills its no wonder they think fuck me im off to nethuns

I thought it would be funny if you didn't come back Berries!

I also don't understand the threads that roll on for pages when it's obvious the op isn't returning

Tbf I read loads of interesting threads where I never check if they have updated or forget I have read it two minutes after. What happened with the lady who had a swollen finger?

YANBU, I don't even get why trolls would do it? Surely the idea of trolling is to keep spinning more and more lies?

It annoys me when an OP doesn't return to a thread after posting about a DC problem, and leaving the ages out.

Ages are pretty much always relevant.

I often do this. I understand why some people might not post again, but I'm really not very interested in reading multiple pages of people arguing with each other when the OP does not reappear.