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To think my friend’s “warning” was fine?

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WomanStanleyWoman2 · 07/10/2023 16:03

A new Arabic restaurant has opened in our area. A friend of mine went and said she liked the food, but was disappointed there was no alcohol licence. She and I both enjoy wine with a meal, so it did put me off a bit TBH, although I might try it for lunch.

Anyway, someone had posted about this restaurant on our local Facebook page, with all the usual “please support a new local business” comments. My friend had replied on the post saying “Just to warn people, this place doesn’t have an alcohol licence or offer BYOB”.

Honestly, from some of the reactions you’d think she’d confessed to suffocating puppies. People telling her she was pathetic; why on earth should people have to be “warned” about the lack of alcohol; can’t people enjoy even one meal without alcohol; it sums up everything that’s wrong with this country (🙄) and so on. One person (who I assume is connected to the restaurant or its owners) even tried to suggest she was damaging the business!

AIBU to think there was nothing wrong with what she posted? Maybe the word “warn” made it sound a bit overdramatic, but realistically there are a fair few people who wouldn’t want to go to a dry restaurant. As for saying she was damaging the business, that’s just ridiculous in my eyes. It was entirely factual to say they don’t serve alcohol. It’s unlicensed, but they want to keep it a secret? If they’re that worried the lack of a licence will put people off, why not just apply for one?

If they think they can sustain a dry restaurant, they must believe they’ll still get customers who aren’t bothered by the lack of alcohol. So why is it a problem to point out that they don’t sell it?

OP posts:
autumniscomingsoon · 07/10/2023 21:28

supplycaptain · 07/10/2023 16:26

You “warn” people about something wrong. So is your friend implying that it’s wrong that the restaurant doesn’t serve alcohol? That’s where the offence has been caused as you get into the territory of judging other cultures or thinking your culture is more important. They feel they need to defend against a “warning”

Lots of people don’t eat in establishments where alcohol is served, many Arabic restaurant visitors might be Muslim.

I wouldn’t have posted a “warning” about this. Frankly don’t feel it’s something that needs to be pointed out when you’re aware of cultural differences

Edited

It's pretty unusual for a restaurant to not serve alcohol. It's fine that they don't want to but because people would assume they do I think it's only fair someone advised people thinking of going that they don't service it

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 07/10/2023 22:29

luckylavender · 07/10/2023 19:16

@WomanStanleyWoman2 - but she used the word 'warn'. I mean you asked for opinions and you don't agree with most of the replies. Why ask?

That doesn’t even make sense! How would I know I didn’t agree with the comments until they were made? Try to think that one through…

OP posts:
angsanana · 08/10/2023 06:46

ReadingSoManyThreads · 07/10/2023 17:38

YABU

I actually can't believe you posted this. It's so disrespectful. I wouldn't go to an Arabic restaurant and expect there to be alcohol or be allowed to take alcohol. Honestly, I think these people who need to drink wine with their meals are pathetic.

Your friend's "warning", was unfair and disrespectful towards their beliefs.

Would you not? In the UK? Every single Arabic restaurant I've been to serves and allows alcohol. May be because in from the bougie south, but hey.

angsanana · 08/10/2023 06:47

OP, your friend was unreasonable to post in that way on a FB post asking people to support their business. You don't warn others about nice stuff, so I'm not buying your comments about it being factual.

zoom1982 · 08/10/2023 07:27

Hilarious thread,full of ignorance and the usual olympic standard virtue signalling that I've come to expect from Mumsnet. My Muslim friends here in the ME found it most entertaining!

BygoneDays · 08/10/2023 13:32

newamsterdam · 07/10/2023 18:12

Why is the nice thing the top priority? What's not nice about letting people know basic facts about the restaurant?

Indeed. Why should being nice be any kind of priority? It’s dog eat dog out there, fuck ‘em.

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