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AIBU?

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Original poster

To have sent my kid to school this morning

153 replies

DinoSand · 05/10/2023 08:53

Got the guilt. DD is 4. Just started reception. Was just settling into school routine

Sunday night: vomited x 2
Monday: unwell on sofa. No sick
Tuesday: seemed much better but then a little bit sick again at 6pm after dinner.
Wednesday: absolutely fine, jumping off walls, eating all day.
Thursday (today): ate huge breakfast. Fine. Sent to school

I haven't stuck to the 48 hour rule as that would be 6pm today.

AIBU?

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Curiosity101 · 05/10/2023 12:16

So around 36hrs after they were first sick, they were sick again. And around 36hrs after the second sickness you gave them a massive breakfast and sent them on their way 🙄

I wonder how these bugs continue to circulate... Oh wait...

pigsDOfly · 05/10/2023 12:17

morag1234 · 05/10/2023 09:16

It's totally fine. I do the same thing.

And do you check up afterwards to find out how many children or teachers your child has passed the sickness onto?

Nanny0gg · 05/10/2023 12:26

DinoSand · 05/10/2023 08:53

Got the guilt. DD is 4. Just started reception. Was just settling into school routine

Sunday night: vomited x 2
Monday: unwell on sofa. No sick
Tuesday: seemed much better but then a little bit sick again at 6pm after dinner.
Wednesday: absolutely fine, jumping off walls, eating all day.
Thursday (today): ate huge breakfast. Fine. Sent to school

I haven't stuck to the 48 hour rule as that would be 6pm today.

AIBU?

Do you care whether or not YABU?

Audreysbaywindow · 05/10/2023 12:32

Topseyt123 · 05/10/2023 08:57

I used to do the same. Once they were fine then it was straight back to school. I gave the 48 hour rule no headspace.

Huge breakfast and bouncing off the walls is fine for school.

Until they get to school and throw it all up again 🤦‍♀️ ffs.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/10/2023 12:35

YABU

The 48 hr rule is there to protect other children in the class and stop bugs spreading. This was clearly a really nasty one from your timeline of events.

Why not just take her out for a walk somewhere outdoors (not including a playground obviously) if she’s “jumping off the walls”?

nopuppiesallowed · 05/10/2023 12:48

Is there a doctor or other health worker on this thread who can post the reality of the 48 hour rule? Someone properly qualified to give us all sensible advice? I'd follow the 48 hour rule because why wouldn't I? I wouldn't have wanted my child to pass on a nasty vomiting bug to anyone....

multicolouredbunting · 05/10/2023 12:53

The Christmas pre covid we had a warning email from the school saying that any more cases of D&V and school would be closed for 3 days for a deep clean and to please keep children off if they were unwell.
It was rife. There were multiple children throwing up in school assemblies one after the other.
I've known many parents whose kids were sick the evening before, sending them back in the next day because they seemed okay that morning. And they don't mind admitting it either.

rainbowstardrops · 05/10/2023 13:09

PinkMoscatoLover · 05/10/2023 10:46

Wind em up and watch em go

Exactly what I was thinking.

Mind you, I've worked in a school for years and I can't abide selfish arses who send their children in either the morning after they've been sick, or before the 48hrs.
No thought for other people at all.

Topseyt123 · 05/10/2023 13:19

Audreysbaywindow · 05/10/2023 12:32

Until they get to school and throw it all up again 🤦‍♀️ ffs.

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Funnily enough, that never happened. I knew my own kids.

They're in their twenties now and I am relieved to no longer have school age children.

Audreysbaywindow · 05/10/2023 13:38

Wow, I wish I had psychic vomit powers- amazing!

EaudeJavel · 05/10/2023 13:46

Topseyt123 · 05/10/2023 13:19

Funnily enough, that never happened. I knew my own kids.

They're in their twenties now and I am relieved to no longer have school age children.

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trust me, so are other parents...

The ones who had to deal with the consequences are probably still a bit pissed off, but no worries, you had your "me time".

Cloudysky81 · 05/10/2023 13:59

The evidence for the “48 hour rule” isn’t particularly strong.
There may well not be an infective cause in the first place. Peak stool viral load is at 24 to 48 hours, but can be found 7-10 days later. It’s a bit of a compromise between what reduces infections and what people will actually follow.

obje · 05/10/2023 14:05

You are being completely unreasonable posting about it given he's already there and nothing can be done.

If you're happy doing it that's your choice (is possibly do the same tbh), but don't come on to a forum of mums after the event looking for views

Graciebobcat · 05/10/2023 14:22

republicofjam · 05/10/2023 14:02

I have every sympathy with the people who came down with norovirus but no sympathy whatsoever with school administration as they enforce increasingly draconian, unfair and discriminatory attendance policies and force parents to send children into school ill.

crumblingschools · 05/10/2023 14:26

@Graciebobcat blame OFSTED and DfE for that

Graciebobcat · 05/10/2023 14:31

Yes, true, but it's kids and parents who bear the brunt of it.

LargeglassofRosePlease · 05/10/2023 14:49

multicolouredbunting · 05/10/2023 12:53

The Christmas pre covid we had a warning email from the school saying that any more cases of D&V and school would be closed for 3 days for a deep clean and to please keep children off if they were unwell.
It was rife. There were multiple children throwing up in school assemblies one after the other.
I've known many parents whose kids were sick the evening before, sending them back in the next day because they seemed okay that morning. And they don't mind admitting it either.

That’s outrageous. How utterly selfish and irresponsible some people

Broccoliforever · 05/10/2023 16:08

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PreetyinPurple · 05/10/2023 16:54

There was a mum at primary who was one of those who had very little sympathy for sick children (I walked to school with her). Her youngest once puked every single morning/evening for a week and she sent her in, luckily for her she never puked in school. By Friday she looked a total mess and school pulled her aside to say they were worried about her and mentioned there was a vomiting bug. She actually said on the way home ‘well I hope I don’t catch that’.
So it’s all very well and good having these rules but there’s some that will always ignore it.
I’ve worked in secondaries where they tell you to send them in if they’ve puked as long as they seem okay, because they are so concerned with their numbers.

crumblingschools · 05/10/2023 23:01

@Broccoliforever more common to close classes. Our school didn’t make the news when it closed the class

Moldywarpedalright · 05/10/2023 23:09

Sorry but I think you were unreasonable op. It’s immaterial whether your dd was bouncing off walls or not; the 48 hr rule is for the benefit of others, it’s not just about your dd.

Broccoliforever · 06/10/2023 05:55

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SUCkythings · 06/10/2023 06:10

Meh. Some places have a 24 hour rules. If she vomits, she vomits. Sounds like it will be ok.

MaryShelley1818 · 06/10/2023 06:19

Really selfish, this how bugs spread and circulate.