To have sent my kid to school this morning

[DinoSand]

Got the guilt. DD is 4. Just started reception. Was just settling into school routine

Sunday night: vomited x 2
Monday: unwell on sofa. No sick
Tuesday: seemed much better but then a little bit sick again at 6pm after dinner.
Wednesday: absolutely fine, jumping off walls, eating all day.
Thursday (today): ate huge breakfast. Fine. Sent to school

I haven't stuck to the 48 hour rule as that would be 6pm today.

AIBU?

My son’s school would have told me to bring him in if I’d given that explanation in the op, despite having a 48 rule. I once rang them to say he’d been sick and they still said ‘well are you sure you can’t bring him in and we’ll call if he’s sick again’ 🙃.

There has to be a compromise between common sense and need to carry on. The Tuesday sickness may not have been anything to do with germs, simply over eating when the stomach is still resettling after illness. It doesn’t sound like the op’s child is still sick and whilst it hasn’t been a full 48 hours it’s still a couple of days. 4 days since she’s shown signs of being actually ill.

I think it’s more nuanced than ‘it hasn’t been 48 hours to the minute!!’ here.

I really can't believe that nearly all the people on here actually keep their kids of for 48 hours. There's no way. People have jobs to go to!

yes u are selfish. My kid is disabled and vulnerable and if catches a stomach bug from yours he will likely have seizures be in hospital and it can even (tho unlikely) infect his shunt and brain meaning surgery. For him its life threatening. I hate people like you who have no regard for others.

You should have stuck to the 48 hour rule tbh it's there for a reason.

I'm an emetophobe and people knowingly spreading D&V are Public Enemy Number One IMO but even I don't think you have sent your dd back too early.

A few years ago it was only 24 hours you had to keep them off for. She sounds ok and unlikely to be sick again. It’s very hard as you don’t want them to miss out and also schools are obsessed with attendance (won’t go into the time, two years ago, when my daughter’s attendance was flagged up on her end of Y1 report… she’d had Covid, D&V and chicken pox all within the year and we’d followed NHS advice/isolation times to the letter 😡).

I’d have sent mine in. I don’t get the hysteria on here about the 48 hour rule. My school doesn’t stick to it either. They say at every assembly that if a child has to stay off with d&v then they can still come in in the morning to get their registration mark, they’re all about keeping their attendance levels high. If whole classes were going home sick because of a kid coming in ‘too early’ then our school wouldn’t be telling them to come in as it would obviously be lowering the attendance

YANBU I reckon, your kid was fine all day yesterday and is fine today. It would annoy me if your kid was unwell yesterday but this wouldn't bother me.
I have primary school children that I would prefer didn't catch illnesses and I personally stick to the 48 hour rule, but that's only because I can afford to keep them off (I can switch days easily), but I understand other people need to get on with things.

A quick google says noro and other stomach bugs can potentially be contagious for up to 2 weeks following infection, I wouldn't expect someone to keep their child off for 2 weeks if symptoms were no longer present.

I think it’s not only unreasonable but selfish.

We had an issue where another parent sent their DC in before the full 48hrs were up.

The consequence was that several in the class then got sick.

Our DC fell ill just before their bday party so it had to be cancelled, we lost money and they were very upset.

The guidance is there for a reason.

@Aylestone some classes have to be closed for a few days for a reset (and deep clean) because parents don’t get the hysteria of the 48 hour rule

It’s fine. You used your common sense. People can get very OTT about this magical 48h rule.

YANBU. Kids have to pick up common bugs some time. They can’t avoid common germs all their life long.

This is how I feel too. People are so selfish these days.

I’m on the fence … personally I probably would have been tempted in the past to send them , as obviously they are better , but having worked in a school and seen how things spread I think it’s probably best to stick to the rule , just in case it’s something contagious. It will probably be fine , they are probably better and no use stressing about it now as it’s too late x

YABU.

I’ve never known that to happen in my life, but ok

Source? And your imagination doesn’t count

AIBU to think OP will not return?

My dd was sick yesterday morning, feel absolutely fine today so she called school herself (she's 17) explained they said yes go in as long as her breakfast stayed down! So I'm about to take her in

Then your GP is an idiot. I've lived in both the US and Australia and 48 symptom free before going back to school/similar environment is very much a thing.

I think that a lot of what MN posters say and actually do is different!

And they won't avoid all germs, there's a difference between someone knowingly still contagious entering an environment where germs spread very easily amongst large amounts of people and encountering them through the course of everyday life though.

I think the responses on this thread show how there's no hard and fast rule.

"You are so selfish"
"Nah, it's fine"
"You should be ashamed"
"My doc thinks 48 hour rule is stupid"
"You could kill someone with your lack of care YOU ARE THE DEVIL AND YOU SHOULD HAVE YOUR CHILDREN TAKEN AWAY " ok, that one is exaggerated

There's no winning when you're a parent. You'll get judged whatever you do