Is this weird to do during sex??

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I'm an 18 year old girl who had sex for the first time recently with my boyfriend. He knew how nervous I was so made me feel super special.
He had already complained about using a condom so I was slightly wary. He wore one anyway and when we were having sex I think he slipped it off because when he finished the condom wasn't on him anymore and it was on the floor. He was as confused as me but I may be naive here. Help please!!!!

He's not confused. He's lying.

He had unprotected sex with you without your consent. That's really not ok. It shows he can't be trusted.

You need to get tested for STIs etc.

Yes it is possible he did that, and if he did this counts as rape as sex was conditional on him wearing one.

This is sexual assault. So sorry it has happened to you.

Taking a condom off during sex without consent is rape.

It's called stealthing and it's not OK.

It's called stealthing and can be considered as rape under UK law.

Absolutely not ok! Condoms very rarely come off, and if they do the usually end up inside you, not on the floor.

Here, this might help. rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/types-of-sexual-violence/what-is-stealthing/

There is no way it could have ended up on the floor without him taking it off.

Get the morning after pill ASAP, you can get it from the pharmacy

Not weird, wrong- yes, immoral-yes,illegal-yes.

This is not a person you can trust, at all.

im so sorry to say this but you really need to see sexual health clinic. You need to consider the morning after pill and an STI check.
im not going to say this couldn’t happen but it has never happened in my experience and so I suspect it was your boyfriend which is very worrying. Even if it came off by accident (highly unlikely) he should have noticed.
particularly at your age if he’s unwilling to wear a condom then it’s a no to sex.

please go and get sexual health advice op and talk to a friend on a kind relative if you can about this. What a horrible first experience

No it’s definitely neither normal nor in any way forgivable. You need an STI test and you do know you could conceive? Don’t trust him again. I hate liars and he is one.

Your bf should have willingly worn a condom for the first time, not complained and tried to make you feel guilty. That's a red flag.

I also don't believe it slipped off accidentally without him realising, he would have felt the difference in sensation. Did he have his hand down there at any point when he could have removed it? Even if it had somehow come off accidentally, condoms don't tend to leap on to the floor. I'd be very cautious about having sex with him again.

Think of it like this - if he couldn't feel the difference between having it on or off then he wouldn't complain about having to wear one. It feels different, that's why men moan about wearing them. So he would have noticed immediately if it had accidentally slipped off.

He's lying to you if he is pretending he didn't notice, I'm afraid.

You need to take the morning after pill and get checked for STIs and I would not have sex with him again if I were you.

Wow thank you everyone for this I'm feeling super overwhelmed he down played it to me SO much and made it sound normal. I was scared to tell my mum but i definitely will now. Thanks again❤️

What a horrible first experience.
He was very wrong to do this, and it is now considered to be rape.

The definition or meaning of the word 'stealthing' is when someone removes a condom during sex without the other person's consent or lies about having put one on in the first place. Stealthing is rape under English and Welsh law. This means that someone who carries it out can be prosecuted for rape.
https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/types-of-sexual-violence/what-is-stealthing/#:~:text=The%20definition%20or%20meaning%20of,can%20be%20prosecuted%20for%20rape.

Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry you've been put through this. I hope you're ok x

When you say 'recently', how recently and did you get the morning after pill?

Oh the bastard. You need a morning after pill from the nearest pharmacy, they're about £20 - please make sure you do that today.

And he's a bad person.

Tell your Mum.
If this is a boyfriend I think you need to think about ending the relationship. This is an appalling thing to do.

Tell your mum! You need real life support. I'm sorry this happened to you, on your first time as well. I also think that he is lying, if he was telling the truth he wouldn't be downplaying it, he would be equally as horrified as you are.

Big hugs OP - not all men are like this x

I'm afraid it was a few weekends ago. I only post now as I told my best friend and she was alarmed but I'm now considering a doctor's appointment.

No one has said this yet...so in case it's not obvious op...you need to end this relationship.
He raped you. He took the condom off intentionally and without your consent, that's rape.