Is this weird to do during sex??

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I'm an 18 year old girl who had sex for the first time recently with my boyfriend. He knew how nervous I was so made me feel super special.
He had already complained about using a condom so I was slightly wary. He wore one anyway and when we were having sex I think he slipped it off because when he finished the condom wasn't on him anymore and it was on the floor. He was as confused as me but I may be naive here. Help please!!!!

I’m so glad you’re going to tell your mum OP and get help/support from her and services.

this man is dangerous. He assaulted you and then downplayed it (what he did is gaslighting).
take care of yourself

So there's every chance you could be pregnant then?

Have you had a sexual health check up?

Just wanted to echo what the others said, it is serious and he was wrong to downplay. You could easily be pregnant and should also get an STI test. Hope you're ok and glad you feel able to chat to your mum

Condoms either split and stay around the penis or they come off inside of you. I've had both these things happen. Never ever, has the condom ended up on the floor. I'm so sorry he did this to you.

This.

He's not a good man. Don't be afraid to believe and vocalise that.

He knew exactly what he was doing. Think about the mechanics of sex from his perspective. The sequence of events that would have had to take place for the condom to end up on the floor could not possibly have happened without both his awareness and his direct participation in it. I'm so sorry that your first experience of sex was with someone like that. Yes not all men are like that but you need to be always vigilant to avoid the ones who are unfortunately. These men can talk a good game but it's their actions you need to pay attention to.

Get yourself an STD test and put this guy in the bin, where he belongs.

Is he older than you, op?

I'm so sorry this happened to you

If you can talk to your mum please do. Can I also recommend having a Google for your nearest SARC centre. They will have all the information and support you need in a really gentle and caring environment.

They can run tests, provide advice and arrange someone to talk to if you want to.

Take care.

Condoms don't randomly slip off.
He was being unpleasant from the start by complaining about wearing a condom. What a dreadful person.

I'm sorry this has happened to you. Definitely get tested for stis/pregnancy. Fingers crossed all will be fine, but you must split up with him. I'm glad you sound like you have a really good friend to turn to as well!

But yes he raped you. It's illegal.

Please take this seriously. He is not a good person. He is a rapist.

I agree you should talk to your mum. If you struggle to do that, make an appointment with a GP (preferably female) and tell her everything.

To be crude - he ejaculated inside you as condom was on the floor? Were you using other contraceptives

This is totally not normal - he assaulted you by doing this. If you haven't already then you need to dump him. You can report it to the police (and I don't want to dissuade you) but it is unlikely he will be prosecuted. You've had some good advice here to speak to your mum, get tested and consider a pregnancy test if you miss a period (or 4 weeks after the assault to be sure).

Massive red flag. As well as sexual assault, it shows he has no consideration for you whatsoever. Get out before it goes too far. I'm sorry this happened to you.

Please go get tested for STDs and never, ever see that boy again.

You poor girl, I'm so sorry this was your first experience of sex. Please do tell your mum. She might be shocked and angry, but that will be directed at this utter bastard, not you. If you have a good relationship with her, which you seem to have as you mentioned telling her, she would want to know and help.

Oh, poppet. I'm so sorry this was your first experience. How awful for you.

Please speak with your mum and to a doctor. You might have a sexual health clinic nearby, they are usually lovely people.

Please, please ditch the loser who did this to you. You are worth so much more than this

I'm sorry this happened to you and understand you are quiet rightly overwhelmed.

It's really worth going to the doctor, having an STD check snd also changing your contraception for in the future. It's very common to use the pill or injection together with a condom so you have as much protection from other stds and pregnancy.

Get rid of him immediately. He cannot be trusted and doesn't put your concerns or sexual health first. I am putting it mildly when I say he's an absolute shit.

Your friend sounds like a good one and I'm glad you have her and your mum to support you.

Yes definitely talk to your Mum about what has happened. If not your Mum then someone you trust who can help you to seek medical attention (an aunt, family friend, teacher etc.). Please know that this is not a normal or healthy way for men to act during sex, what happened to you is illegal.

It is not good sexual behaviour to have unprotected sex.

However, it is absolutely possible for a condom to come off during sex, especially for a young couple who are not used to doing it.

Do not downplay this OP. This is illegal and known as stealthing:

"Non-consensual condom removal, or "stealthing", is the practice of a person removing a condom during sexual intercourse without consent, when their sex partner has only consented to condom-protected sex."

"Stealthing is rape under English and Welsh law. This means that someone who carries it out can be prosecuted for rape. Like all rape, stealthing is a very serious crime that carries a maximum sentence of life in prison. 'Stealthing' is a slang word, not a legal term."

He knows what he did OP. Please talk about this with those close to you. What he did is illegal. Really hope you're OK and have support around you.

The reason he played it down is because he knows full well he’s removed a condom without your consent and had unprotected sex with you without your knowledge. Under UK law, that’s rape. If he’s complained about using a condom before, you can be sure this wasn’t an accident - even if it had come off accidentally during sex he would have been aware of it and should have stopped and told you.

You’re very young to be learning this the hard way and I’m so sorry this has happened to you. If your mum is understanding please tell her and hopefully she will support you in getting professional sexual health advice, including the morning after pill and an STD check. And dump the boyfriend ASAP because you can’t trust him.

Yes condoms can break and slip off. But how does one slip off, fall off the bed and land on the floor? A condom slipping off usually refers to it rolling all the way down.

That's no ok OP

Bloody hell. Please do a pregnancy test and if negative maybe do another in a week to be sure. And you need an STI check.

Brooke clinics are good if there's one near you or look up your local GUM/sexual health clinic.

You are DONE with him.