To wear white at wedding

[Kliopgh]

Have asked bride and she said it’s ok…

I think it's fine.

I wore a cream floral dress to a wedding this year and like you made sure it was okay. I think as long as the dress isn't too bridal looking then it shouldn't be an issue

I wouldn't - even if the bride said it was ok.

There are so many other colours!

It's the bride's call to make. If she says it's okay then it's okay. I wore white to my friend's wedding, she wore black!

I married quite a few years ago and a groomsman’s girlfriend wore white and everyone was pissed off on my behalf. I wouldn’t,but maybe that’s me, I’m older and it wasn’t the done thing then.

I wouldn’t. It’s not difficult to find another colour to wear.

Really? Of all the colours in the world.....

So many other ( more beautiful) colours. Why wear white? Is it for attention?

Is it a wedding where the bride traditionally wears red?
is it a white background in an otherwise heavily patterned dress?
is it a white shirt with a suit and tie?

Even if the bride has told you it’s ok, other guests won’t know that and you might feel judged by others for it. Personally, as much as I love a white dress, I wouldn’t wear white to a wedding as there are so many other colours.

What kind of person do you have to be to ask a bride whether you can wear white at her wedding?

Unfortunately I would say no. I wore a black jacket, hat and cream dress combo to a mates wedding, she was fine with it.
I spent the entire day being looked at like I was trying to fuck the groom. BOTH mothers in law felt the need to comment as did many guests.
When I pointed out that the bride had ok'd my outfit I was hit with "you put her in an impossible position on her wedding day, how could you be so selfish".

Worst wedding ever and it got brought up at every wedding/event I went to after, 'funny' comments like "oh you've come as a guest this time" and my favourite "so you like (name) enough not to upstage her like you did (name)"

The bride, groom our friends were all fine it wasn't even noticed. The older people and relatives of the bride have never forgiven me.

Weddings are a fucking minefield. It could be fine but if isn't you will be that woman forever

Do it just to piss off the Hyacinths of MN.

I wouldn’t because I’d probably feel uncomfortable with other guests judging me unless it’s a wedding in a culture where white isn’t a traditional color worn by the bride and more people would possibly wear it.

there are a million different colours and you pick white? it's poor even if the bride says ok. you will esp stick out in photos.

No.....
When my brother got married one of the guests turned up in a white dress with a shawl...and tiara.
I actually thought she was at the wrong church.....

I honestly think this whole 'don't wear white to a wedding' is so outdated. I wore a white suit with black pinstripes to a wedding 18years ago. No one batted an eyelid

I wouldn't. There are thousands of outfits in various colours to choose from, there's no way you can't find something else suitable. Just don't be a dick.

Depends.
I'm wearing white with a colour to a wedding. I'm most unlikely to be mistaken for the bride. Bride has seen photos and says it's fine. It fits the wedding vibe so 🤷‍♀️

I wouldn't. I'd want to the bride to look distinctive, and I wouldn't want to look bridal.

Why not?

There's literally every other colour to choose from. Why white?

As a bride, I really did not care what the guests wore. However, yes many other guests will think you don't like the bride too much. You're not planning to wear a big 'Bride said it's OK!' sign the entire time, are you? If it doesn't bother you then sure crack on.

It’s about the bride being the only splash of white in the photos.

Someone wore a white suit to my wedding and I was a bit ‘meh’ felt like it was a bit ‘look at me’ . It was so bright white it was whiter than my wedding dress and really stands out on the wedding photos.
DH was absolutely furious on my behalf. As was my Mum and MIL. A lot of guests commented on it to me. I think she made herself look like a bit of a tit tbh.
An outfit like a cream dress with pink flowers on , fine. A totally white outfit is a social no no IMHO.

Have you got a pic of the outfit/dress?